Negative Self Talk

I am really working on my negative self talk, both in my head and when I am with others.  I have found myself saying a lot of negative things about my weight and body size to my family and friends and I have to change that if I am going to be successful.  Today, when I was shopping with my 19 year old daugher (who is a size 3 and 118 lbs), I stayed positive.  It is so hard sometimes not to compare her to what I was like at that age and be hard on myself.  I have a tendency to start berating myself for gaining all this weight every time I go shopping.  I come away feeling so FAT. It is so hard not to spiral.  But, I don't want to be that person that makes others feel uncomfortable and I have to stop the negative talk, it is only making me miserable.  I did better today and I am becoming aware of it, so that is a huge improvement.