Needing Help
I have lost the little box on the right corner that shows who is on line..anyone have any ideal how to get it back..?
Decided to take mom out today thought she needed a break from the house...Bad mistake..she started on me as soon as we left..saying I was making excuses why she could not see my sister..I told her I could not get them to answer the phone..and today is when they go shopping...She says..see making more excuses...I said I would be happy to take you there and let you spend the day...or days...but my sister will not call return calls or anything...
My sister has called one time in 4 weeks..that really shows she cares..has offered no help at all...I hope I can do this but not sure..and of course mom always try to put guilt trips on me..but I won't let her...I know what I do and I have never kept her from my sister or anyone in the family..
Oh then she gets mad and says she is just going to open the door of the truck and jump out...after about 4 or5 times of her saying that I said okay..there is the handle..of course that stopped that...she says you know I' M NOT GOING TO DO THAT..
Just games that is all she does to try to get attention.
I told my husband when I got home...we have to stop like she is just here for a visit...and entertaining her...he agreed...we watch different TV shows cause of her here, but I told him that she is just going to have to start being like she is ruling everything...If she don't like it she can go to her room she has a tv...she has always been like that though for instance like a soap opera was on and they were kissing and she goes..oh getting all mushy and turns her head away..I just left it on and said yes some soap I guess...like I told my husband she says that about TV but we heard that the first nursing home she was at..her and this guy were all over each other...
Then then this week..she informs me that I took her away from some guy she was going to marry...she just comes up with the most stupid things to get attention..
Oh well, life goes on...no one else helps out..my brother and his wife who are too sick to help are heading for Ireland...never hear from my other brother..or my sister...yet I get the blame for everything...but that is how it has always been..funny to me that my family can go everywhere but can't take time to come and see mom...yet she says I am the bad one...Sorry just had to grip...
Thanks for hanging in here for me...Love you all..Sandi
Decided to take mom out today thought she needed a break from the house...Bad mistake..she started on me as soon as we left..saying I was making excuses why she could not see my sister..I told her I could not get them to answer the phone..and today is when they go shopping...She says..see making more excuses...I said I would be happy to take you there and let you spend the day...or days...but my sister will not call return calls or anything...
My sister has called one time in 4 weeks..that really shows she cares..has offered no help at all...I hope I can do this but not sure..and of course mom always try to put guilt trips on me..but I won't let her...I know what I do and I have never kept her from my sister or anyone in the family..
Oh then she gets mad and says she is just going to open the door of the truck and jump out...after about 4 or5 times of her saying that I said okay..there is the handle..of course that stopped that...she says you know I' M NOT GOING TO DO THAT..
Just games that is all she does to try to get attention.
I told my husband when I got home...we have to stop like she is just here for a visit...and entertaining her...he agreed...we watch different TV shows cause of her here, but I told him that she is just going to have to start being like she is ruling everything...If she don't like it she can go to her room she has a tv...she has always been like that though for instance like a soap opera was on and they were kissing and she goes..oh getting all mushy and turns her head away..I just left it on and said yes some soap I guess...like I told my husband she says that about TV but we heard that the first nursing home she was at..her and this guy were all over each other...
Then then this week..she informs me that I took her away from some guy she was going to marry...she just comes up with the most stupid things to get attention..
Oh well, life goes on...no one else helps out..my brother and his wife who are too sick to help are heading for Ireland...never hear from my other brother..or my sister...yet I get the blame for everything...but that is how it has always been..funny to me that my family can go everywhere but can't take time to come and see mom...yet she says I am the bad one...Sorry just had to grip...
Thanks for hanging in here for me...Love you all..Sandi
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You are dealing with a tough situation--but you seem to have a good attitude anyway. It must be very difficult to distance yourself from your mom, but of course it is necessary for your survival. We have, in our town, a place where family can take their senior members for fun activities, etc. on a daily basis. I wish you had something like this, too. Maybe you do!
I\'m hanging in there with you. love and hugs, Margery Ann
Hi Sandi,
Regarding your little box on the right - look at the box on the upper left that says, \"My Profile\". Under that it has \"Journal\" \"Friends\" but choose \"Account.\" A box will come up that says \"Chat\". Choose the setting you want, hit \"Update\" and you should be back in business.
I am sorry to hear about your struggles.
With love,
Leda
It\'s hard to be aging, and hard to be pleasant when the ol\' body starts to hurt, hear it from me. I\'m glad it doesn\'t deter you from taking your mom out, and visiting with her, sour as she sounds. We depend on our daughters much too much, now my kids have to help support us. It just never ends. and then it does.
I can\'t image what you go through on a daily basis with your Mother. If she could only see how devoted you are, life would be much easier and she would be much happier........
You might also try \"refresh\" at the top. that silly looking curved arrow. Hang in thjere with mom.. you have your hands full,, and I know what it is like to be always wrong,,I am the black sheep of the family,,,oh well..((hugs)) Nora
Thanks all...Nora the refresh button worked..thanks..Sandi
Well, my IM site worked but now it does not work..I do not know how to make it stay on...If you see me on please let me know..Thanks