need physical contact.

I miss intimacy. I miss holding a woman in my arms. Everyone keeps tellong me to work on myself first, but can I work on myself and still be intimate with another woman. I miss the closeness of a woman. Do I miss her or do I miss sex? What do I do? What should I do?

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cab720
cab720

Well I guess that comes up eventually for most everyone going through this process. I can say I have known a friend who jumped on the dating sites after his divorce. He had lots of sex with many women and it took him six months to find it meaningless. I can not imagine going down that road myself. I heard recently that until you take the time to heal and do the inner work you will just be bringing the pain and dysfunction to your next relationship. That being said, I know how you feel. It has been almost a year since I have had someone touch me in an intimate way other than friends/family. I long for it, but I feel it that it is no where near my time to move in that direction. I would imagine we are all on our own schedule. Best wishes!
Somerdad34
Somerdad34

I am, not ready to move on. I just miss physical contact. That was one of the things we both enjoyed doing together.
hurtinandhealin2560
hurtinandhealin2560

That was also something I had trouble dealing with. I\'m not a \"one-night stand\" kind of person, so I knew that was out. I found just getting massages, manicures, pedicures, etc. did help. Whenever I was with my family, I would get lots of hugs. I know not the same, but it did help.

While it\'s tempting to go out and just be with someone, remember how you will leave that new lady. Sadly, when I first began my journey in the Land of Men and Dating, I encountered two losers/users fairly quickly and learned hard lessons. You don\'t want to be that kind of guy. Take your time to heal.

Sending hugs!!!
RossHomes
RossHomes

I feel similar to a lot of the responses here....Time is all that makes sense right now for me..
Somerdad34
Somerdad34

Is it being horny or missing intimacy that everytime I see a picture of her, all I can think of is having sex wity her.