Need help

I have a great husband and two great kids.  My son is 14 and my daughter is 11.  I'm having trouble to get them all to help with chores around the house.  When I was first diagnosised everyone was helpful and considerate.  The last few weeks, all the chores have fallen on my shoulders.  I don't know how to get them to understand that I can't keep up.  I have ignored some chores, but others do need to get done.  I told my husband this morning I will hire a cleaning lady.  I also work part time.  I'm having a difficult time with the side effects of the chemo.  Yesterday the pain put me in bed at 7:30 p.m.  Today I'm up doing a few small things around the house and all three of them are watching t.v.  No one cooks.  I don't either, my neighbors have been great about bringing us meals.  If they didn't we wouldn't have a meal.  No one does laundry.  I guess I'm just frustrated on getting them to understand, this stress probably isn't helping in my recovery.  Thanks to you all for listening to my rant.  Chris