Need advice extremely SAD
Just really confused at my life right now. Problems with the hubby for about one year now. Which makes me miss my Angel son Danny all the more because he would be right by my side during this difficult time. I had my Granddaughter all week end and loved almost eery minute of her but this Nana was wore out by this morning, she is 3 and had her since Thursday and wanted my son to come and get her but he was not nice to me and wanted to go on his boat so he didn't get her till 7pm.
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I am so sorry that you are having problems with your Husband. I hope that you can both sit down and talk to each other about whatever is on your mind.
You are so blessed to have a Granddaughter. Enjoy!
So sorry. I so understand your comment about enjoying your granddaughter almost every minute!
When we baby sat our granddaughter, we were both exhausted and understood why we are grandparents! We love them but can give them back.
Life is so hard without our kids. Wishing you well in your relationship with your hubby.
Love and hugs,
Marlene
I am always sad when I know someone else is having problems with \"hubby\". My \"hubby\" is very difficult to deal with sometimes and it seems like it\'s always at a time when I\'m not strong and need him so so much to be NICE. Thank God for this group of women - because there is always understanding, love and sometimes advice....that is a blessing!
What a bright spot in your life - your granddaughter! Grandkids are so special and I\'m happy you enjoyed yours! ((hugs)) Vicki
I just can\'t quit crying today I was even unable to talk to the doctor\'s office to get meds had to hang up will call later when I can put myself together. There is so much going on. I have a Memorial get together/ baby shower to go to this week end 225 miles away with all my relatives and I do not want to go am not mentally ready to go, and don\'t want to hurt feeling, then we have our 13th Annual Memorial Party for my Angel son Danny August 2nd these get together\'s and my state of mind and major problems with my husband (drinking,drugs) I really feel like I am going to totally loose it I have NO support what so ever here I was looking up a counselor at the hospital where I go but I hate to just find one on the internet I like word of mouth ones. I am at a point right now I need help and just don\'t know where to go or what to do. *tears won\'t stop :\'(
I feel so bad because I was even short with my precious Granddaughter buy Sunday and feel horrible about it, to the point I don\'t want to watch her for a while cuz I never want to hurt her in anyway. The stress at home was just to much for me to deal with. I am a horrible person right now.
you are not a horrible person you are just reacting to a tremendous amount of stress right now. Take a deep breath and call your doctor...maybe they will recommend a counselor to talk to about everything going on in your life. Good Luck and gentle hugs. Hugs, Ann
Dear Dannys Mom: Sending you prayers lots of hugs and love and strength to get through what you are going through right now.. Just keep reaching out to all the moms on here. I used to cry so much my I.head would pound and my eyes so swollen. I know the dispair you are feeling right now I have been there to. God bless your angel Danny and big warm tight hug and love, Mary Ann. You will make it through this. Stay strong.
Slow things way down and only do what you must. Sorry about hurting others feelings, yet that cannot be a concern for you right now.
Taking care of grandchildren IS exhausting and you are not a horrible person. Just one who is being pulled in too many directions.
There is a wonderful daily reader put out by Al-Anon for those in relationship with those who drink/drug and if his behavior is affecting you then I\'d try to get this little book, it\'s called Courage To Change. It\'s on Amazon and mine is dog eared because I\'ve read it over and over again. Just a thought...
Gentle care and hoping you can find a professional that you can speak with.
Heartfelt (((hugs)))
XO Joanie
I have 4 granddaughters - two are our Jeff\'s. It is exhausting when we have them with us for a while. They are amazing and we love them all to pieces. I am 68 and try so hard to please them. Wish our Jeff was here to see how his girls are growing into beautiful young women. Hoping for you some peace and also hoping you can find a professional that you can talk with.
Nell
I don\'t know why people don\'t understand many of us just feel so tired so often. I love my grandkids... and I\'m sure you love yours... but my favorite visit is about 2 hours long. Just long enough to really enjoy them and for us not to get tired of them or they of us... I hope you do find a counselor that you feel comfortable with and that you can maybe go to some AlAnon meetings too. You will do better by everyone if you take care of you first. To me a counselor doesn\'t really have to do a lot... just be there so I can unload some of the stress... *S* Hugs Elissa
Thank you all so much, I so appreciate all your warm and kind words and thank for all the suggestions!!!! I have finally quit crying I busied myself off and on. I think my lupus has been wanting to show it\'s ugly face so I have to try and lay low if at all possible from time to time the next 2 weeks. I guess we are going to the Memorial up north and my son and wife and Granddaughter will be staying with us we have a 40ft 5th wheel it wouldn\'t be too crowed lol. Then get home and get ready for the Memorial Party for my Angel son so the lay low looks like won\'t happen till the second week in August.
Big hugs to everyone I know you have your share of grief also,
You are NOT a horrible person! You are dealing with SO much, and we can only do what we can...no more.
Give yourself a hug and remind yourself just how awesome you are!
Rest up and only do what you feel you are able....that\'s always enough.
Love and hugs~~Teri
Thank you Teri een a change of plans I will be going north but not taking our 5th Wheel it is so bug and would cost us a fortune to haul it just for 2 days. So I will be leaving my hubby and 6 chihuahua\'s behind and going up with my son Scott and his wife Rianne and Granddaughter Brynlee in Rianne\'s Dads camper. I guess it is a good thing with no worries. It will be a good time to do some sole searching. I will miss my Furbabies though :(
Thank you and hugs to you all, Vickie