Nate thought I was pulling away!

Nate called me last week in a panic because he got fronted from a dealer he found in Attleboro on of his brothers. He was in a panic that the dealer was going to show up at the house  and he would get kicked out and go back to jail.
ME - 10/5/12
If u want me to help u then U need to make better choices. I can't keep helping u out and u throwing me under the  bus. I feel like it is a lack of respect for everything I do for you.
I hope  everything works out for you and u get to stay in the house. I'm glad you told me but call me when ur thinking of using. It would be cheaper for me if u went back to jail.
I really love you, but you need to get sober. I am always here but I could be paying my bills if you still wat to use! Love you lots!
 
Nate - 10/8/12
I didnt use any money u gave me for drugs.i am just getting by with what gave me.i am trying pls dont giveup on me u are all I have and all I am
He then sent me a text message asking if I miss him and asking why does he feel like u are giving up on me. and asking why I'm distancing myself from him.
I explained to him that I am not pulling away just being honest. If he wants to screw around I don't approve anymore. I am a hypocrite as I used rock last week, but I don't have to do drug tests three times a week and have to report to probration every other week.
Nate's Birthday is coming up on October 25th. I had planned on going up to visit him get a hotel room like I have been doing. I can understand that his house manager may not want him to go home due to his last slip was less than 30 days ago. Then there is bigger part of me that says if his family  wants to see him they should pay for him to get home. I am the only one that helps him out so I feel like I don't have to share. Then I could Just tell him if his mom wants to see him she can come to my apartment and pick him up WHICH SHE WILL NEVER DO!