narcissistic
Someone sent this to me and it literally had me stunned. I had never look up this definition before but this is exactly my husband, without the infidelity (as far as I know) and the physical abuse went away a while ago.
Traits of a narcissistic husband
Narcissists are selfish
Any person with narcissistic tendencies is incredibly selfish to the point where they genuinely believe that the rest of the world revolves around them. Consequently, one of the main narcissistic husband traits is an intense preoccupation and absorption with self.
Narcissists are only interested in themselves
They are not interested in your life because they are far too busy focusing on their own needs, preferences, and potential pathways to success.
Narcissists are controlling
Narcissistic husbands are very often extremely controlling and manipulative. They will try to isolate you from your friends and family so that you are more dependent on them.
Narcissists are petty and cruel
Withholding affection and attention is one way to control you, but they can also be verbally cruel and take pleasure from provoking you with hurtful words because they find it entertaining.
Narcissists can act like children
Many narcissistic husbands are prone to ranges and tantrums, rather like a toddler. It is a form of attention seeking, and just like a spoiled child, any attention is good, even if it involves making you cry.
Narcissists are blameless in their minds
A refusal to accept responsibility is a classic trait of a narcissistic husband. No matter what goes wrong, it will never be their fault. They will be quick to blame you for their failures, even when the finger of blame is pointing squarely at them.
Narcissists are allergic to the truth
Many narcissistic husbands are also pathological liars. They will try and manipulate you with a complex web of lies and half truths. Their highly selective memory will filter out the truth and they will probably accuse you of being at fault.
Narcissistic men will lie about everything in an attempt to justify their behavior, but if you dare to question their version of the truth, they will probably lash out in anger or come up with an even more absurd lie to explain away the inconsistencies in their story.
Other traits of a narcissistic husband include a tendency towards addictive behavior, infidelity, violence and cruelty.
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Very true. My wife was very much the same at points. The realizations you point to are tough ones to accept, but once you do, real healing begins. As well, its at that point you can shed many burdens and enjoy life for you. You deserve happiness! stay strong!
Did they have one forthe narcissistic wife as well? Very interesting post and yes nearly all for her except infidelity unless infidelity is also being so in love with white wine that she would stick the single serve bottles down the front of her pants. Reisling and Black Velvet her two boy friends oh man they slept with her too!!!
Im so sorry you have to deal with this kind of person. Nobody should have to, its almost like there is no winning a point, conversation or anything. You deserve better. Get away from that toxic sludge and find someone who appreciates you for you
I am working on that. Thanks for the advice all it is much appreciated. Its nice to feel validated when he makes me feel like im going crazy and everything is all in my head