Nagging question
H and I have been discussing a past email that I saw awhile ago from OW that you could take two ways. If I didn't know about A I could believe his explanation or if I read it between two other people I could understand his explanation but knowing about the A makes me take it at face value and am having a hard time accepting what he is telling me. This discussion has been going on and off for the past 9 months and as I write this I can see his point but knowing he had an A it just seems unlikely and that I'm reading it the right way.
If he never had an A I would believe him. Since he did have an A I'm not in that position. Any thoughts on what either H or myself should do? H doesn't know how else to convince me and I don't know either.
Email was from 2006 and work related which is why he still has it. A was on and off again 11/05-9/07 and I didn't find out until 2011. Should I do as Lotus said to lump it all in one time period? Maybe not analyze every little thing.
My hang up is that I can't imagine that it was just sex occasionally when they were on business after drinks and nothing else. H says they didn't even talk about A (They're both avoiders, I can vouch that H is). It just happened and ended the same way it started. I'm not an avoider so I can't imagine but can see what he's saying.
Am I being stupid or am I holding onto something I should let go? As I type I'm thinking let go. I don't have anyone else to go to for advice and would appreciate any. Thanks.
If he never had an A I would believe him. Since he did have an A I'm not in that position. Any thoughts on what either H or myself should do? H doesn't know how else to convince me and I don't know either.
Email was from 2006 and work related which is why he still has it. A was on and off again 11/05-9/07 and I didn't find out until 2011. Should I do as Lotus said to lump it all in one time period? Maybe not analyze every little thing.
My hang up is that I can't imagine that it was just sex occasionally when they were on business after drinks and nothing else. H says they didn't even talk about A (They're both avoiders, I can vouch that H is). It just happened and ended the same way it started. I'm not an avoider so I can't imagine but can see what he's saying.
Am I being stupid or am I holding onto something I should let go? As I type I'm thinking let go. I don't have anyone else to go to for advice and would appreciate any. Thanks.
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