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Just received T's interim report from school and although I knew what was going to be on there - it was difficult to see it in writing.  He's failing EVERY class.  For awhile there I was e-mailing teachers for missed work for him to make-up (he's missed lots of school) but he didn't even try to make up any of it.  I would e-mail the teachers, pick up the work, only to have it sit there at home.  He would tell us that he received  the papers in school, too, and was doing it there.  We really didn't believe him but, at the same time did - for self preservation.  I know we can't make him to the work.  We also beyond grounding - he doesn't listen.  What we've managed to do, however, is not turn his phone back on and stopped buying him cigarettes.  I know buying him cigs in the first place sounds odd but - as a "recovering" addict - that was the lesser of the two evils.  It actually feels good not to buy them anymore.  I hate those things.   Next week we have his I.E.P. meeting to try and determine what the next step is..  He could be headed for a 90 day residential drug treatment center because of some of his behaviors. Unfortunately, if that is what is decided - it won't happen until mid November and T knows that.  As far as we can tell, however,  he's not using but his mind isn't completely in recovery - so he needs extra support.  Monday evening he will be seeing a mental health/chemical dependency counselor for an evaluation.  I hope he can get some information that would be helpful.  I also hope T will want to continue seeing him.  The fellow that comes to our house is ineffective. This past week, also, I received a number of phone calls from the Assistant Principal from my son's school telling me of my son's behaviors.  It was all about not being at the right place at the right time in school.  He also said it was my son who rode by his house over the weekend and yelled obscenities to him out the car window he was riding in.  Wonderful news - after all this guy has done for our son.  Later on in the week our phone was quiet- maybe I am used to the drama - so I e-mail him asking for the packet I am working on to help other parents who find themselves in our position (a chemically dependent child).  At the end of the e-mail I told him how sorry I am for our son's behavior.  He sent one back that actually made me feel better.  He said I need not apologize on our son's behalf and said he wished that there were more parents like us who are supportive and cooperative.  He said he's learned a lot from this experience with T and will now be able to apply it to similar situations.  I really, really needed to hear something good.