My Sister in law is not a Dr!

I have just recently started face book. I work in the mental health field so having a public face can be very dangerous. Also early in facebbok - you know when most people still had Myspace... I had someone who worked under me fired for writing she had a bad day at work. So yeah - did not want to loose my job just to play telephone with a bunch of people stuck with highschool mentalities. 

Wow - that made me sound pretentious. Sorry. 

So anyway, my husband set it up for me and said it was super secure, but I am still very careful about what I write. 

Within days of getting it set up this drama started with my dad going into the hospital. So, since most of the 'friends" I have are actually family, I put on there to prey for my dad and that he was in the hospital. I also kept people posted on how he was doing and when he got home. After he came home, I told people what the Drs said and what that meant. .... 

My dad thanked me and appreciated the cards and calls while he is healing. He is still feeling very though. 

But my sister in law was pissed with me. She went on a tirade to my parents about how I was spreading rumors about them and trying to make them into invilids. .. uh no.... worst of all, she decided to start giving my parents medical advice. 

Now, lets get something straight. I am considered a medical professional, but I do not work in the medical field in the sense that I can treat illnesses other than the spectrum of mental health. What I can tell you is that I work with the public and have come across a wide range of illnesses and deseases that people in the public have, and have done a great deal of research to understand many illnesses and know where to go and who to ask.  

I also deal with hospitals and insurance companies on an extrememly regular basis and know the things they try to pull, what they mean when they say certain phrases and what kind of papers they shove at you. I also know the key phrases that get them to jump when needed, and they know how to pull my strings too. 

So am I a Dr? No. Should I be giving medical advice. ... well. ... it's my job to help people find answers and I can definately point them in the right direction because of the research that I have had to do. but the simple answer is I am not a Dr so no. 

Here is my problem. I have releases for my parents and call their Drs. I have the information as to what is going on. I talk to there Drs ad call them out on bull shit. If I hadn't screamed at the DR the other day they would not have even kept my dad and ould not have found out he had the infection.... blah blah blah...

BUT - my mom loves my brother. He can't do wrong - even though I could list the things he should be in jail for..... And his wofe is the most wonderful brilliant person on earth. Even though she refuses to work, loves to spend money like water, claims she hurts to much to get out of bed most days (which could be true), well educated, make my parents come down once a month to clean her house and mw their lawn, needs babysitters all the time for her even though she doesn't work, .... let me go on..... anyway

My mom is mad at me right now because I am trying to push them to make adult decisions. So she doesn't want to hear anything I say... only what my brother has to say and his wife. 

Yesterday my dad woke up screaming in pain. And when I suggest they need to go back to the hospital, I am met with my mom giving me yet another tirade about how aweful I am, and about April letting her know how I lie about them on facebook, and all the usuals she has to tell me, but the best... teh best was that she was more willing to listen to April because April is not bossy like me ... and that April had their best intrest at heart, and she knew I just wanted their house. 

I just bought a house a little over a year ago. I love my new house. I love being away from the drama. But for some reason my stupid brother andhis stupid wife just want to draw me back in. 

What is the truth here .... neither my brother or his wife work. They lost their house in a fire a little over a year ago because my brother is a hoarder and the fiemen could not reach the source of the fire to put it out. The place where they are renting they can no longer aford and my brother asked me to help him move in with our parents, but I refused because my mother is also a hoarder. 

and trust me - I work in the mental health field, I know the definition, and I do not exaggerate in using the term hoarder.  

So now, my dad finally convinced my mom to take him to the hospital late last night. He called me at 5 am after my mom went to sleep that they went, he was pumped up with pain meds, and they were sent home. He told me he was afraid to ask questions of the Dr because my mom harrassed him the whole time that they were waisting money and shouldn't have gone. He wanted me to know he did feel better, but also knew most of it was the druggs.....

So here is my new problem.... If April gets my father killed - I'm launching after her so hard she will never know what hit her. 

Hate does not describe the distain I feel for my brother and his stupid wife right now.....  

Sometimes I pray they gain understanding. Sometimes I pray they leave us alone. Sometimes I pray they get hit by a car because it would make my life easier....

I know I am a terrible person, but sometimes people who think they are holy are worse... and that makes me a terrible person for thinking that. 

more spirals and stress.