My opinion on relative adoption

I am excited to report that our adoption of my granddaughter will be finalized next week!  This has been a very emotional process for all involved but it is absolutely the right thing to do.  The idea of pulling a toddler out of the only home they have ever known just because "mom" or "dad" decide that maybe now they're ready to parent would be obscene.  These little kids can't just shift into another routine because a birth parent arbitrarily decides that now they want more involvement in their child's life.  And who's to say that involvement will be steady and forever?  I don't think parents should even have the option of "reclaiming" their kids once they've bonded with their lifelong caregivers.  The pain it would cause the child and the caregivers would be unbearable, and undoubtedly leave lifelong scars.