My Oldest Brother
Not to be confused with my brother that I talk about alot who lives near me.
I have another brother who is 49 and he is going to die. Mom and me are in the ICU right now. Waiting on EEG results. Doctor already talked to us. He said my brother won't make it out of here alive. Soon they will give him morphine and let him die.
Always knew this day would come, surprised it wasn't sooner. He was born with many birth defects and been in a nursing home most of his life. It's still not easy watching my mom lose a child.
We have lost so many people already and my aunt just got out of the hospital and is doing better. Now this.
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That dichotomy of whether to grieve the end of life or celebrate the end of suffering is a really hard one for me to balance.
Continued support while you process, Ghost. Stay brave. Yay you for being there for your mother.
Oh No. How sad. I’m sorry about your brother. I just sent you a message about finance before I read this post.
sorry to know this......will keep your family in my prayers....hugs bill
I had a nephew like that on my ex wife's side. Toward the end, he had Pneumonia so many times that he became resistant to the antibiotics they were giving him so they did the humane thing and gave him so much morphine that it brought the inevitable a little sooner and avoided alot more horrible pain. He was 44 with the severest form of cerebral palsy, and when the end came it was a Blessing.
I don't know what your religious beliefs are but if it were me, I would say to him, "you can go now" The less attachments they leave with, the easier it will be on them when they cross over.. Heaven is a beautiful place.
God Bless .
I'm sorry so sorry to hear that. I know he had many health issues but you loved him and he loved you.
May God gently guide him.
Thank you all. Bob he is just like you said, cerebral palsy and pneumonia. He seizured for so long he went without oxygen and won't ever wake up. His kidneys aren't working either. He is convulsing and won't stop. It was hard to watch. We are home now, just waiting for them to call us with changes. We told him goodbye and that it was ok to go.
I'm so sorry.
I'm sending prayers to you and your family.
My brother died this morning. I woke up at 2:48, made coffee, and started cleaning. Then the hospital called with the news. Just got home from funeral home helping Mom with arrangements and editing obituary. Gonna go to florist and pick out flowers for casket spray. Funeral is Friday. I left the house at 8 and went shopping for clothes to bury my brother.
I think I am doing a good job and being strong.
Sorry for your loss. Its so expensive to bury our loved ones. Hope your mom does not spiral or you spiral towards depression
No we won't bill don't worry. He had such a poor quality of life. We are glad he is in a better place with loved ones.
You have my deepest sympathy for your loss....yes, it is like you said....he is in paradise and surrounded by unconditional Love,...and that I am certain!
God Bless
Not sure what to do with myself. Taking care of baby Kitty, looking thru photo albums with Mom. I don't feel like going to work or relaxing. I've been obsessively cleaning and lighting candles. My cousin came to visit last night and mom gets a few phone calls. Other than that it's just us here. Fiance is working late today so he can leave early tomorrow for the funeral. At least he will be there, but he isn't good around emotional stuff. He hasn't been very supportive lately. I got up when he was getting ready for work and made him hug me. I know that sounds weird, but like me he is a very empathic person. Unlike me, he hasn't learned to deal with it very well so it scares him to be close to people during an emotional time.
I hope tomorrow goes smoothly.
The funeral went smoothly. I'm so tired now. Surgery next Thursday. September looks to be a very busy month. Legal proceedings will follow soon. Just taking one day at a time and hoping for the best.
Finally got my $4000 inheritance check today from my brother's estate. Now we just have to make sure Medicaid can't take our farm and we will be all set there.
that is some nice money.....why would medicaid try to take your farm?