My new day to take back control

So i did break down yesterday and wish FOM a happy birthday. It led to much txting. Him professing asking me to be his gf. He envisioned us living together within the year. blah blah. Today, he txted me a little while ago. The usual hi. He asked if he could see me. Professing feelings once again. I said - simply, directly, not wishy-washy: NO. He replied ok. Nothing since.

Today is the day i take back control of my life, thoughts, feelings. I am realizing FOM is twisted in his way of thinking and i no longer want to be a part of that. Redlegs and ironic helped make me see that along with reading many other threads here.

I feel free. I want to continue to focus and work on my M and pour all of my energy back into my M and family. They are NOT worth losing.