My Mother's Day

I celebrated Mother's Day by getting out of dodge with my kids to visit my parents.  It was a good weekend b/c not only was it Mother's Day but it was my A's 7th birthday.  It was bittersweet for me.  I didn't know and my mom didn't know if he would even get me anything from the kids so she got a card and flowers for me from them...they were beautiful.  I have my days all the time, but it was A's birthday so I wanted to make Sunday about him.  I feel he always gets jipped in some way so I wanted it to be special.  We had cake at my parents and presents, and on the way back we stopped at an indoor play area for him and his brother to play in.  They had a ball and I even called my stbx to see if he wanted to come and enjoy the day.  I shouldn't have...but I did, for A, I did.  On a sidenote I called him for directions b/c I wasn't sure of how to get there and didn't have my GPS...wouldn't you know he was on the fucking phone with her.  I heard it blip and immediately hung up knowing who he was on the phone with.  He makes me sick.  Can't even be 20 minutes and on his son's birthday without annoying me and thinking of someone other than himself and his whore.  Whatever.  I didn't say much cuz I was pissed.  But again, I put it aside for A.  Afterwards, I took him to Toys R Us so he could pick out what HE wanted.  When I got home, the stbx did get me a card and flowers from the kids and he even got one for me....you know how he signed it...Sincerely, M***.  WTF...sincerely!  When has he ever been sincere..what an oxymoron...(heavy on the moron).  I should not complain but it was weird, "sincerely".  Not love or even just his name.  That bothers me for some unknown reason and I can't figure out why.  I think I would have been happier if he got me nothing.  I guess in my mind I wonder what he got his OW for Mother's Day...how he signed her card..IDK...I guess I am a weirdo.  Well, back to A...he had a wonderful day and I feel proud that I did that for him, even tho I didn't have the money for a big friends party.  I hope he understands that, and knows I am doing the best I can for him.  THE END.

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sfsoccermom
sfsoccermom

You did a great thing for your son, you had bonding time. That is more important than any amount of money or even a friends\' party. Believe me, they understand and know who loves them and cares for them.

Your ex sounds exactly like mine, all in it for himself. The one thing that I have learned that has helped me so far is not to focus on what he is doing, and what time I am enjoying with the kids. It\'s his loss, remember that. I know it is hard, but you can do this. Give yourself a pat on the back for being a great mom and making Mother\'s Day special for you and your son\'s birthday special for him. Hugs!
goodfight
goodfight

L, he may not know it now but he will later. Don\'t put so much worry into what you can or can\'t provide. Kids most of all want a parent who loves them and I\'d say those kids have that in you. God Bless
deleted_user
deleted_user

sounds like you had a great day with your boys (transgressions with the STBX aside) and that you made your little man feel special. That is great.

LMAO on the \"sincerely\" part. He shouldn\'t use big words that don\'t apply to him.
totallychaotic247
totallychaotic247

Mother\'s Day was tough for all of us, I think. I think you did a great job of making about A. I also think M is a douch bag. Sincerely, really? You should get him a realtors card to show him just how sincerely you want his ass to move out. Even make the initial consultation for him :~) You\'re a great Mom!!!!! Love ya, K
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deleted_user
deleted_user

Well, llmt, I\'m glad you made the best of it! And it turned out great that you celebrated your Son\'s B-day too! That, in itself, I think was a saving grace. Smart thinking, going to see your Mom on MOther\'s Day, too. Totally appropriate, and saved your mind a abit from cuckoo thoughts, I\'m sure.

But yeah, M couldn\'t stay off the phone long enough to be with his son! Sad testimonial on his part! And, I too think, that the \"sincerely\" part was ridiculous! Well, he is indeed one confused puppy! Geesh!!!

Hope you are having a decent week! He has had more than 20 days to respond hasn\'t he??? What\'s going on with that???
deleted_user
deleted_user

You did good under the circumstances. Don\'t give the moron any more energy....

You are doing things right. You are worthy of love and peace.


Sincerely,

Z *wink*
deleted_user
deleted_user

Hugs for you and your children. So sorry your stbx behaves as he does. Wanted you to know that I care. Your friend.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Good for you making it about A and making it a special day for him... My ex signs things sincerely now sometimes, too, and it makes me wanna PUKE. Big hugs to you, L. Glad you made it through the day..