my mother did not acknowledge my christmas gift

about a two months ago i started looking for my mother's christmas gift.  i saw two pieces of jewelry in cartier, but a month ago i saw a bag in cole haan that made me think of her.  it reminded me of her leather coats she had when i was a child.  i even walked around the mall to see if anything stuck out before i purchased the bag.  i came back to the bag with this tickle in me that said get it.  i was real excited about the gift. i sent the gift home from where i am from.  i wasn't sure if i could make it home for christmas.  i didn't make it.  i had my family gift wrap it and give it to her at a family christmas brunch.  my aunt told her how beautiful the bag was and my mother replied: he knows his mother.  i called up to my family to say hi for christmas.  i spoke to several family members before i got to my mother.  from the tone in her voice and certain words i got the feeling she was upset that i spoke with others before i got to her.  she never acknowledge the bag - at all.  she said nothing about it. it crushed me.  i cried for a minute and then said i was not going to let her do this to me.  i vented to some friends and my aunt.  i did what i had planned for christmas.  i decided not to call her that evening because i did not want to put up with her stuff. you know, i really believe my mother has twisted my abuse into an attack on her has a mother.  i think she sees it as me saying she wasn't a good mother.  i never blamed her for not protecting me.  she doesn't talk to me about the abuse or my therapy.   i hot, but i'm not going to let her get to me.  i can't do it.  this is not about her, this is about me.