My life has been torn apart

About three weeks ago my husband and son picked up our daughter and were gone for awhile. When they returned my husband had our son call me in for a talk in the living room. He had our son tell me that he was tired of the life we were living and because of a friend who was in a similar circumstance who finally divorced his wife my husband felt he needed to do the same. He told me that friend and his ex are even better friends now.  He told me that he believes we will be good friends too.  At the time we had staying with us a woman instructor from egypt. She was going to teach part time at Highline College but things fell apart because she didn't have a work visa. I didn't find out until THAT day in the living room that my husband Oussama Alkhalili planned to marry basma selah but he said they kissed and then she scared him by making all these demands. He stopped any future plans with this person because of her pushiness. I believe she was mainly trying to get a green card by marrying him.  She even went so far as to contact a friend of his to try to convince him to go back to her. 

      I would (& still do) cry a lot. He said it would be best if I moved out as soon as possible so we set the official move date for August 9 because my sister and her husband live in Bakersfield, CA. My daughter wanted to move out of the house to stay with them. I have never driven on my own to San Pedro, CA where I'd be staying with my parents and two brothers. My parents live in a two bedroom and one bathroom condo on the main floor but my other brother lives in the third floor condo where I would be staying. His is also a two bedroom one bathroom condo  

    The week or so I had to pack and get rid of things to put toward a garage sale and decide what to take with me was hard.  I am 55 years old and we were together 23 years  I had stuff from when I was a baby.  I had too much things but a lot were sentimental.  I gave away books that my late grandfather gave me decades ago.  Even though I had a mini van we were taking the two cats. I wanted room for them to roam around during the two day drive. My daughter had a lot of stuff she wanted to take also.  

It's tearing me apart inside because he's going to get to stay in that house and his life has not changed much but mine is turned upside down. I can feel our son's disdain for me. If and when he calls me it is because Oussama has a question for me but he has our son call me to ask me.  I get so angry at my situation that I want so bad to smash my phone but the only thing holding me back is that it's the only way I can keep in touch with our daughter who has been my rock ever since this happened.  

I forgot to mention that when we were in the living room talking about him divorcing me one of the things he said in front of our kids was about not having sex.  He told the kids that he has "needs" which is why he masturbates.  He mentioned that we are living separate lives...have been for years & that technically, according to allah, we are not married. He said he had planned to divorce me after our daughter graduates from college (she just graduated high school this year)

I guess you could say he was being patronizing to me when he was telling me that he tells them (I don't know who all he has been talking to either) "she's a GOOD MOTHER" and "she's a GOOD PERSON" I can hear that unsaid "BUT....!!!!????!!!!"