my impending breakup

here's the recent news. Right after new years the wife emailed me and said that she didn't want to come back. She doesn't want to go back to being the wife, mother, confidant, etc. She wants to be on her own.  She has proposed a separation legally so that I and our son can stay on insurance which is a good deal for us.  I have asked for her to do counseling and she refuses. She said she can't talk to a counselor (which, of course, means she wONT talk to a counselor).  And that is that. how am I coping? surprisingly well.  I guess I didn't know how strong I was 

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Barb99999999
Barb99999999

Well maybe deep down in your mind youmight have known this was coming and maybe wanted it your self. Its better to be alone and happy than with someone and unhappy. There is a new chance at life for you out there . For every negative there is a positive. I wish the best for you.
jeffstueber
jeffstueber

I have made it my new goal to ruminate on my failures of the past that led to this breakup and whatever she did wrong. I\"ve spent a lot of time trying to understand her. I\'ve going to stop doing that now.....