My first phone encounter

well, tonight was the first time she let me say anything to her about anything.  of course I blew off everything I felt, but her words to me were that I should have known this from the beginning.  Wow, If i wouldve known that, I would have never said I DO.
So the reason she called was to tell me she couldnt come down this weekend for her visit because her money had been held up.
I suppose I need to get a journal and record all this stuff.  I should go ahead and ask the lawyer to get the text messages her and ex texted to each other.  I feel like such an idiot for not seeing this, and for that matter, seeing who she really is before.
and well, i heard her voice and its not of the woman I married.  the ex's voice it sounded like.
and for that matter, he was sitting in the same room listening .  I wont say anything anymore to her except through the lawyer.  I am going to do this from now on. (I hope i can keep my word on this until the big d)

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deleted_user
deleted_user

We never seem to see their real side until after we\'re married. Then, we realize we loved someone who doesn\'t exist. I like your own advice of only talking to her via the attorney. After my divorce, I always let the men I was involved with listen in on my conversations with my ex. They were shocked, but I felt it was their right to hear what I was dealing with and besides that, some felt threatened by him and he was not a threat to anyone...not even if he were last man on earth. Sounds as though she and her ex deserve each other. For me, when a relationship ends ugly, I feel that God is protecting me for my own good and I trust God\'s judgement. I\'ve learne not to waste my time on someone who isn\'t worthy of me. Hang in there for your daughter\'s sake. She needs at least one sane parent to make her life normal.
deleted_user
deleted_user

You are lucky I can not even have any contact with my wife at all because of how stupid she was going to a shelter and getting a protection order on me i fought it of course. but the judge rulled that it be terminated after the 17 of Dec. I still love my wife but she is a different person go see my new post \"I dont know where my wife is now\" I am so lonely I am 32 year old male that had everything now living back at a friends familys basement saving my money again getting a new place I hope soon but I should be greatful for everything even little that i got. Its been two months now separated and my divorce is almost paid for, my lawyer needs to find her so he can give it to her. I have a meeting with him on wed. I need to trust in the Lord that he has better things for me as well its just so sad to see where her life is going and mine. I just feel like everything is happening to me
lostdaddy
lostdaddy

I felt like that too. Last nite was the first time i got to finally say my piece. now I am through. She isnt the woman I married 6 years ago. I worry about her mental condition. I think she needs to see someone. my wife wouldnt have ever done this. she loved God too much. now she believes god told her to do this. such deception. every word she says is a lie. well I am sitting her waiting for the d day that I dont want to come but i have no other recourse but this.
JeffX20
JeffX20

It\'s a good thing that you are going that route. It will save you a lot of heartache and problems. And document everything even if it\'s something small. Write down everytime she starts a fight or if she\'s extra nice to you. You may need it someday.