My first goal update

About my goal of repairing relationships.   I sent an email to one of my sisters 4 days ago and let her know that I have decided to reach out to members of our fractured family.  I let her know that I don't want to live the rest of my life with unspoken conflicts that divide me from my family members who I love and once had a close, loving relationship with.  I asked for an update on how my nephews and niece are doing and how she is doing.  I had no idea if I would receive a reply or if I would receive a negative reply.  I received an email from her last night that showed me how receptive she was to my letter and what I had to say.  She thanked me for reaching out and gave me long, detailed updates on my 2 nephews and 1 niece, her kids.  She gave me much information about herself and others as well.  This is a good thing.  It is not easy to erase from my heart and mind how badly she has treated my daughter and our mother for years but somehow it is just more important to me now to let it all go.  She had put me on her blacklist more than a year ago over something that seemed so petty to me and I have held the position that if she can write me off that easily then it is no problem to me, so be it.  I hope that I can hold tight to my new outlook on my family and my desire to reunite and help repair the relationships in my family.  I pray for strength to do this and reach out to a different sister here soon. Sherry

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deleted_user
deleted_user

HONEY IT TAKES A MUCH MUCH LARGER STRONGER PERSON TO MAKE THE STEP THAT YOU HAVE JUST MADE WITH YOUR SISTER. UNFORTUNATELY WE HUMANS DON\'T OFTEN FORGET SOMETHING THAT HAS HAPPENED THAT HAS CAUSED US MENTAL OR PHYSICAL PAIN HOWEVER WE DO HAVE THE POWER TO FORGIVE OR JUST TO PUT IT BEHIND US EVEN IF NOT ACTUALLY FORGIVEN. YOU SEEM TO BE A CARING PERSON AND I\'M SURE THIS RIFT BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR FAMILY HAS CAUSED YOU FAR MORE PAIN THAN IT HAS THE OTHER HALF BUT YOU NEVER KNOW. I AM VERY VERY PROUD OF YOU FOR MAKING THE EFFORT TO REPAIR THINGS. HAVING ALL THESE EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS GOING ON DOES ALSO AFFECT HOW YOU HANDLE PAIN AND MAYBE IN TIME THIS WILL GIVE YOU A LITTLE EASE IN THAT AREA ALSO. JUST KEPP PLUGGIN AT IT LOL NANCY
AzSherryberry
AzSherryberry

Thank you crazy. You are right and appreciate your encouragement. : )