My Family Is Driving Me Crazy!
Must be a full moon. Paul and David have been driving me crazy. Bad weekend again with David, refusing to do chores, talking back, etc. We were over an hour late to my little nephew's birthday party due to David couldn't get it together. Paul was screaming all day and that did not help. Poor Kona spent all morning under my desk and would not even come out to eat breakfast. That just pains me! Then we get to birthday party. I am outside talking with my mom and David walks out the door and sits and puts his head in his lap. We weren't even there 10 minutes. No explanation other than "I'm bored." We go in, he refuses to talk with anyone, puts his head on the table and feigns going to sleep. (It is pretty noisy in there as the party was in a fire hall. All the kids were running around.) He refuses to eat. He refuses to talk. I just wanted to cry. Out of the blue, 45 min later, he gets up, gets 5 meatballs and eats them and the proceeds to run around and have a good time. Should I be concerned about bipolar here or is this just typical 12 year old boy? I just overall had a horrible day and then drowned my sorrows in emotional eating, which did not solve anything. And Paul does not know when to shut up and just nags! Paul really needs to get a life somehow. I need to find happy pills and put them in his drink. He is yelling and irritable and usually over stupid stuff. Yep. Found missing papers in David's drawer. Yep. Found the Zune in the bed and he is listening to music instead of sleeping. Yep, found another empty soda can in his room. And Paul takes all of this and just blows it more out of proportion. He even yelled (to me, hopefully David did not hear) yesterday, "Maybe we ought to give him back." I know this was just kidding, but it was cruel. When he gets like that, he says cruel things. He is stuck in this house from the weather. His business is not doing well. He has very few friends, no life, no self worth, etc. But is this my fault? It got so bad tonight with him yelling (and this was because the remote wasn't working right on the dvr and he missed the first couple minutes of a show due to the president was on.) I said to him to leave. He said "to where?" So he took the dog out. Then he comes in and acts like nothing happened! WTH! David seems more on track today. He got his homework done without much of a fuss. I swear, these two feed off of each other. I am praying that when the weather improves, Paul is out in is garden and David is out riding his bike. I just can't take it for much longer. The dog and I just sit in my office with the door closed. The two of them desperately need to snap out of it. I just hate all of this and the stress kills me. I really need the two of them to go away for a weekend. Sounds selfish, but I really need a weekend to myself and know I will not get it. I am PRAYING for a work related field trip somewhere. I can go stay in a Hampton Inn in the middle of the Poconos somewhere for 3 days. OMG! Can't remember the last time I was praying for a bunch of fires to happen in the Poconos! I would have my bags packed so fast! Maybe I ought to just go by myself. Indoor pool, exercise room, free breakfast with coffee and even a coffee maker in the room! Cable tv. I would bring my Kindle and read 3 books! I just can't be everything to everybody. I really need to plan a vacation by myself. Is it selfish to want to be away from my husband and child for a few days? Oh yeah, I will miss the dog!
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As I raised 3 girls and 1 boy I remember more about girls, but I recall the moping, not joining in David did at the party. When it did not gain the attention he wanted he got bored with the \'act\' and gave it up.
Oh the memories of 3 girls doing this!
But to bad that it triggered your stress eating! You have to make a plan to stop yourself next time. Maybe hum to your self for a bit, wear a rubber band on your wrist and snap it! Something to break the mood.
Hugs to you! May Spring come soon at your house!
Oh I hear you!! I married a farmer, so I have about 5 long months of winter in a small house. I am dying for spring!! I think it\'s pretty normal behavior, the party head down on the table and then joining in thing. I\'ve heard of that and witnessed that a lot in teens, especially in those earlier teen years, like 12-16, in there. But you\'re right, the hubby isn\'t handling it well. When he came back from his walk, your hubby may just have wanted to ignore his previous poor behavior, as men often do. We women want to clear the air more than the men do. Just keeping petting your beautiful Kona and you be the calm, loving influence. They will eventually come around, get through this, and learn from your behavior. Teach them how to treat you too, by responding only to things directed at you in kindness. Sounds easier said than done, but if your hubby\'s behavior is ridiculous and it gets a response out of you, he\'ll just keep it up. Anyways, you might just have been venting and here I am blah blah advice blah!! No, of course it is not selfish to need time to yourself. Put yourself on the list too. And no, of course you can\'t be everything to everyone. You\'ll burn out. Put your health and yourself on the list. You deserve it. You work so hard for everyone else. You deserve a major break!!