My ex wife has no brain
So I finally got the signed sheet back from all my daughter's teachers that she is set to graduate this Thursday night from high school. Yaaaa! I'm extremely happy as this last year was precarious to say the least but it finally looks like it's in the books.
Considering this was news my ex should know I fired off a quick text to tell her the paper is signed and K is all set. I get some text back that "you just needed to have faith in our daughter"....my blood immediately started percolating as I looked back at this year and what transpired. My only response was "well it's been a hard year for her I'm just glad it's over" and left it at that...but oh no, she had to lob another text over the bow ..."well you do realize all four years of high school were hard for her not just this year"....and I'm thinking to myself as my blood pressure has now reached Defcon 2 ..you really don't fucking get it do you? You're really gonna compare her first 3 years of high school with her last year when her mom bailed out of the house while fucking our daughters boyfriend's father, when our daughter had to deal with her favorite grandmother dying a few months later who lived only 2 miles away that she visited all the time for support...2 months after that K came home to her dog who died who she had since she was 6...a month after that her boyfriend of a couple years dumped her and left the state...and on and on and on.....but my brain dead ex is going to make her graduation about herself somehow..just like her mother always did. She's morphed into her selfish mother. Her mother actually screwed my ex's fianc before they were married...so yeah...runs in the family. Anyways I ignored her last statement...no response was best. Had to get this down in my journal though. And I am proud of my daughter and I'm not gonna engage with my psycho ex. She can sit there with that stupid grin on her face for the rest of her life. I told K's teachers and counselor and everyone else at the school what she pulled during this difficult year and they all summed it up nicely in one word..."ick"
Considering this was news my ex should know I fired off a quick text to tell her the paper is signed and K is all set. I get some text back that "you just needed to have faith in our daughter"....my blood immediately started percolating as I looked back at this year and what transpired. My only response was "well it's been a hard year for her I'm just glad it's over" and left it at that...but oh no, she had to lob another text over the bow ..."well you do realize all four years of high school were hard for her not just this year"....and I'm thinking to myself as my blood pressure has now reached Defcon 2 ..you really don't fucking get it do you? You're really gonna compare her first 3 years of high school with her last year when her mom bailed out of the house while fucking our daughters boyfriend's father, when our daughter had to deal with her favorite grandmother dying a few months later who lived only 2 miles away that she visited all the time for support...2 months after that K came home to her dog who died who she had since she was 6...a month after that her boyfriend of a couple years dumped her and left the state...and on and on and on.....but my brain dead ex is going to make her graduation about herself somehow..just like her mother always did. She's morphed into her selfish mother. Her mother actually screwed my ex's fianc before they were married...so yeah...runs in the family. Anyways I ignored her last statement...no response was best. Had to get this down in my journal though. And I am proud of my daughter and I'm not gonna engage with my psycho ex. She can sit there with that stupid grin on her face for the rest of her life. I told K's teachers and counselor and everyone else at the school what she pulled during this difficult year and they all summed it up nicely in one word..."ick"
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Coop,
I am so sorry that your ex has made what should be a happy time for you and K all about her. Ignore her and know that you have done better for K than anyone. Congratulations to you and K! I know as a parent what a wonderful feeling it is!
Hugs,
Amy
Ugh I know! Thanks Amy nice to hear from you again hope you\'re well :)
Congratulations to K, and to you for helping through this painful ordeal! It sounds like you did a great job supporting her and K pulled through. I think she will always know who was the stable one who was there for her. So, forget psycho Ex and go ahead and be proud of K and of yourself too. I know, easier said than done when they know just how to push your buttons, but kudos for not engaging further in the text messaging.
Dear Coop,
I am flabbergasted at the blatant lack of reality that your ex is showing. Is she out of her mind?!?? You know...we have so much in common that I want to share with you what the psychiatrist for the ASS diagnosed him as. He is diagnosed as a Narcissist. And the more that I hear about your ex...the more I wonder if this is the case for her too.
If you like, check out the Wiki on Narcissist. You may even find her picture there as an example! Her lack of perspective and the fact that it is all about her..makes me wonder if this is what you are dealing with as well.
They are a very difficult personality disorder to deal with and maybe, if this is what she is, your knowing it will help you deal with her better.
As for your poor dear daughter...this last year has been Hell for her and the fact that your wife doesnt see that is abominable! I do hope that she is doing better...I know she has been through a lot. But hopefully time will help and your support is so valuable. You are a great dad and Im am so glad you have each other.
Hugss and prayers to you and K.
Sandy
Wow, what a screwed up family! All that messing around. She\'s a mess. Glad you are able to see the strain all those traumatic incidents would cause someone, rather than living in obviousness, like your ex (I hate people like that). It\'s good that your daughter has someone who lives in reality.
Coop you have been a good father. You can be so proud of what your daughter has accomplished through this difficult year. Your daughter knows how you have helped her.
I know how annoying an ex can be when they try to make light of the struggle someone else went thru. Your daughter made it through HS in spite of the difficulties you all had. You know that you did everything possible to help her. You are a great dad.
Your ex has once again proved why you\'re lucky to be rid of her. She obviously didn\'t get on line when God was doling out common sense. Don\'t let her stupidity detract from your daughter\'s big day. I know you won\'t because your such a good dad. Congratulations to you and your daughter. I hope you thoroughly enjoy Thursday!
Thanks everybody I appreciate the feedback ...as a side note K could tell I was fuming after this small communication with my ex so she said \"well it could be worse\" and I said how? (I thought that was a strange comment coming from her)...and she said \"you could still be together with her...!\" haha that lightened the load a bit. We both had a good laugh. She does see me as the sane parent, I just have to not let what my crazy ex says bother me, and it really is getting better. It fried my ass for a bit but I was over it pretty quickly. Thanks again everyone, I\'ve learned yet again to just not communicate with her unless necessary and in hindsight K could\'ve told her this news. I think I just wanted to share it as \"parents\" but of course psycho had to get her mentally ill point across...
Great news Coop. Don\'t let your ex get to you. She is just an outsider in your kids lives now. We all know who got your daughter through this past year, YOU. With your persistence, patience, care, concern and just being a great dad, you got her through! You are the calming force in your kids lives, and that will keep your relationships in tact.
Way to go Coop and congratulations to your precious daughter.
Thanks Pam, I truly believe my ex sucks lol.
If I may say, \' YOUR EX HAS NO BRAIN! \' Good flippin\' grief. Good for you in not continuing to engage in her stupid nonsense texts. I can imagine your blood was boiling. I know , as we all do, that it\'s been YOU that has gotten K through this painful last year and all of the loss and pain and changes. You are a wonderful dad and what a lucky girl K is. Congrats K on graduating in 2 days. I know you\'re proud beyond words as you should be.
Big hugs!!
G~
Thanks Gaye...dumb of me to think she wouldn\'t take the opportunity to give herself a \"well deserved\" pat on the back...up until she bailed of course but I guess that\'s not part of her psyche. I had to cut off that convo pronto before I started going ballistic lol. Just deleted the text exchange and had a cold beer :)
Good job Coop. :))
Hey buddy, this just just goes to prove you are well shot of her. Attacks like that are really below the belt and designed to get you where it hurts. Remember they can only do that if you play her game, right? Congrats on your daughter\'s graduation mate too - say hi from me - the resident marsupial lol. You\'re better than all that garbage and you have moved on - never look back mate, just forward to bigger and better ok! Shoot me a message or a hug or an email when you can - I am not on here as much these days. Happier days ahead champ - that\'s all you gotta focus on.