Much to do about nothing
Well I was looking forward to my surprize today......my W was waiting in the bedroom and I serviced her and that was it. Then I made dinner and cleaned up...such surprizes....eeegads heart be still. Her reaction to everything "well at least someone had fun"
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so sorry (((((((((((jerry)))))))))) i wish u could go to counseling and such with her u do so much for her it isnt fair and such
i feel for u sweety i am here ona nd off i will try to be here more so
i dont know how to guide u here or help in any way i know hwo much u have been through with her and it isnt fair to u
maybe u thinkk u both need a break or something i dont knwo i wish u the best and u will be in my prayers so maybe she will see what she has losty once iot is gone u knwo that is only the last resort though but i woudl keep pushing the counseling
i love ya bro
It is ok sweetie we have been to counceling and the councelor says she is a lesbian trying to be hetero...I guess it is what it is.
That is BS and you should do what is best for you. I don\'t want to tell you what to do but Jerry you are so much better than this and you deserve to be happy. It isn\'t about sex it is about intimacy...This is crap
Wow, what kind of a surprise was that?? You already have had that over and over.......I wish I could do something to change that for you. That has to be so heartbreaking. I wish I had some \"magic\" words to give you that you could say to make her open her eyes and realize that you need intimacy, emotional and physical intimacy.......she is hurting you far deeper than it appears to her on the outside...........I am sorry for that. I am here if you need to talk.
Thanks everyone it really helps
I am so sorry for you. Why is it we take everything on ourselves and try to give what they need? Sex was awsome with mmy H all weekend. Intimacy was there some, and then something snaps and he gets mad, mean, and defensive. Sounds like your W. That was just evil for her to say at least someone had fun. She needs to put forth some effort here. Look at me... the expert here. HA! Dont we wish we could just figure out what we need to do ... and have support from our spouse to do it... all the time...not just fleeting moments. They dont understand the zero confidence we have. Its hard to get over every little dig and slap they send our way. But we are suppose to just be there for their every need. They dont understand how devistated we are. That we have needs and pain too. We need love from them. My h did really good for about 5 days. Then got mad a bit. Then ok another day. Now, today hes not talking to me cuz i make him feel like a lousy bastard. Cuz our oldest is mad at him??? Yep thats my fault too. Maybe thats his guilt talking to him. Maybe your wife feels guilt... doesnt sound like it. Sounds just down right mean. If shes gonna give you a surprise, make it real. Im sending you a giant hug and im here for you. XOXOXO
Because of her sorted past, I keep up the effort, she was abused and raped during her childhood then only dated women for 20 years. Then comes me:) I know of her pain from the past because we grew up together otherwise I would have said good bye a long time ago. This is not an excuse just my understanding of where she has come from. Will the marriage work out if I have enough patience? aai don\'t know. I will try for a little time longer then the hard decision will be in front of me. The intent by her was there I just don\'t know if she knows what is expected of her emotionaly and physicaly. I know I have too much patience......only time will tell.
So sorry that you are hurting. She seems like she is on a destructive path, that\'s a hard thing to deal with. I have found people don\'t change after about the age of 35. She definatly needs some couseling. See what you can do about that. Your a great friend to so many, and none of us want you to be unhappy.
Hugs to you.
Oh boy. You have known each other for that long? I guess you thought you could fix the situation...you do have patience Jerry. You are right..it is what it is.