Mr. Right vs Mr. Good 4 Now
It is funny how I did pull out of the last dating site. Just as I did, my "Delaware Drifter" (lol. Is what my boss calls him) did message me twice and we did connect
He is a good man, but as you learn more of someone, you realize there are differences.
I continue to check another site that somehow has my profile and I do get a peek at some men curious to know more. Considering how little I see or text with my drifter, I decided to put up a profile and join Zoosk. But not until after I am settled. Too much going on now to attempt the initial sorting and texting with possible prospects , scammers or perves.
Is funny because the day I decided this, I got a message from my drifter. It seems he is to work in the area again on the 17th for a few days. So he will be here for 4 days.
He always brings his own snacks and drinks. Last time I cooked for us, to surprise him, but as I never told him , he ate on the way here. I stocked some unhealthy things he likes, but was not here long enough to touch. I wound up eating some of it over time. Even attacked the chips, but wound up tossing them as they were not worth the damage. Happily do have occasional moments of restraint.
I am discovering the things I do want and look for with a "friend" (or possible companion) one of which is to find a man who does love home cooking and a bit more healthy food. I look forward to the chance to win him over with romantic candlelight dinners. (And he with an occasion to do the same for me)
Others on here do touch my thoughts...Mary Contrary's endless and sometimes desperate search....(I am resolved to if it is meant to be.... And simply looking forward to taking a new look at friendship or possible courtship. Something I have little experience with).... And then I can hear AtpeaceMary's words of encouragement to be patient and kind to myself and discover what I want and am capable of achieving with my life. (And I am remembering just that. Things I changed or gave up because of others. Now is my turn to decide just what IS or ISN'T necessary. ) And I cannot forget Cottontail as she bravely goes where I have been hoping and planning forever.
I talk the big talk, let us hope I may step up to it. LOL. A bit easier knowing you are behind me.
PS. Before going on endlessly, I meant to say... I do not search for Mr. Right (doubtful of his existence) or plan on relying on the Mr. Good 4 Nows. Perhaps there is a sweet and sexy version? LOL
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I am here with you....not available not wanting to be available....just wanting to be happy.....
Hi Kim. Mr Delaware Drifter - I’d like to be a drifter too. Lol. I’m not actively looking any longer. Happy being by myself. Hugs.
You both do have a very good idea
Lb... I am realizing too, the more time with things as I like, the more contentment I find. But I still choose a small glimmer of hope for something different. (I believe it comes from too much time listening to others telling me to settle and give in. )
Here's to us all maybe getting a small taste of a bit more. Wink, wink
Almost forgot to send my usual hugs and gropes. Big grin here
I am missing the hugs and kisses I had but missed for so long before having them again. I am so tired of the endless faces who look more lonely than myself. Zoosh is where I found the best!!! I may have to go back there. POF is getting me down. It seems the best are a thousand miles away. I just can't do that and won't even try.
Lonely again. Sigh...
I know one of the things I have come to realize —> all this stuff we go through is like math. Without one foundational building block, we won’t understand the next concept.
Case in point, I harbored a lot of aggression and resentment towards my ex (even after my wife and I had been dating for a few years). Then it hit me — if I hadn’t had the crappy cheating experience with her, I don’t know if I’d have appreciated what I had with my now wife.
Hope you’re hanging in there veggiequeen
I am Mike , thank you. I do believe the same as you. To me each is like a stepping stone on my journey to where I am meant to go. I do enjoy coming across new people and hearing their stories... I hope to maybe find someone who does also want the same. My guard is still up a little as so many are so superficial....but I truly am discovering (and appreciating) those who are also open honest and genuine.
I am finding that the more honest and genuine I am that those around me can be the same. Every single personal connection , even just a smile on the street to a passing stranger is an opportunity to give our true self to the world. And seriously, what's better than that? Enjoy your time with your friend.
You would be surprised at how far a simple smile can go....It literally carries around the world, because, we are all connected!
:-)
Thanks for the inspiration and the positive attitude! Enjoy spoiling yourself. When we truly accept ourselves for who we are and love ourselves then we attract others who will do the same! XOXO