Moving right along!!
together/break-up together/break-up together/break-up...finally I think I am done. I feel better lately because my doctor finally found the right medication for me (I had too many allergic reactions to meds). So now June 23rd I left my fiance/boyfriend whatever. Let me fill in some background info: His ex wife hates me before I even knew her she hated me and acted jealous and peculiar the first few times I met her. She would tell my ex she didn't want me there (at his house) if she is there when she would come to his house unannounced. She would show up all the time and he wouldn't tell her anything. He would leave me in the house with her and go outside and water the lawn avoiding it. I felt that i never deserved the treatment I received from her or my ex! In my opinion he should have told her to leave! Many times she would come to his house, walk right in and scream at him because I was there. His grown daughter would scream at me saying don't you think you should leave and let us have our family time? She was like 25 at the time. I did not understand their relationship because he swears they had not been together for years. To me though she behaves as if I was stepping in on her relationship. One time my son and i were outside and they came and went in the house and gave us dirty looks and my son said screw that mom lets go in there and see what happens because they are off the hook for treating you the way they do so lets see what happens if we just go in and say hello. So we did and we just sat down, smiled and said hi everyone and the fireworkds went off!! It was amazing!! His daughter even told my son she is sorry he has such a fucked up mother. Well he never forgot that and he doesn't like her at all to this day and says she is not welcome at our house no matter what.I question all this now though.Because why would they act like that if they didn't have a thing going on still?
So last week he would mention his family reunion (by the way his x-wife is also his cousin-red flag #1) and I would say is your ex-wife going? He would answer I don't know. I told him probably ten times if she is going I do not want to go because I don't want any drama. So he tells me at the end of the week we will go and he thinks she isn't going she is supposed to be working. He said his sister told him that. So we drive up in the parking lot and she is getting out of their daughters car (His ex has never learned to drive) and I looked at him and said well what do we do? He knew I did not want to be in that situation. So he didn't answer me for a long time. So I said well let me get your things out and I am leaving. I got his stuff out and he just stood there, didn't say anything, then his 29 year old pot head son (red flag #2) walked up with his stupid pit bull dog with a saddle back (red flag #3) and I just drove off. I texted him later asking how he could do that to me after I told him so many times i did not want to be in that situation and he only said "Your the one who makes the drama" So...... he quit answering my texts when I said anything else all day and night no answers, called him twice no answers. then I sent him one last text...."Since you won't talk to me or answer the phone and communicate I am loading your truck with your stuff and I am through dealing with you." He never answered till his party was over late in the evening saying "For realz thats what you really want? my stuf in the truck you over reacting but if thats what you want ok" then another "So what a fucking birthday present, thank you very fucking much jerk" he spelled everything wrong, I assume he was drunk, then another "If my truck is loaded I never gonna ask you back again! you really showed me your love." I just didn't answer him....it was pointless. I think he forgot what he did to me before I loaded his truck hu? The next day he text me back after I had texted him asking when he will get his dog and junk and he said sarcastically "After you come back from Mass and after you receive communion" and I told him "I already went to confession yesterday and Fr. told me that I should not have let you move in in the first place and that you are not the man God intended me to be with" Then he said "I need more stuff, like my keys, paper work (2 checks), and the blue shoe box (has change in it). I answered him "You will get the stuff you want after you get the junk you keep leaving behinds because I don't want you leaving your stuff behind anymore, (it is just a reason for him to come back later when he knows I'm not as mad to work on getting me back). He says "whats done is done you will never be able to understand nobody even yourself." I figure he took his best shot there but I have the idea that I am probably going to do a lot better without this guy dragging me down any longer. My son will be happier too he is so tired of this guy and the way he treats me, it's a cycle of emotional abuse and he always criticizes me that is his only defense. I am going to Church and I feel better about myself this way. I do need to heal but I don't feel all that bad about it this time.
So last week he would mention his family reunion (by the way his x-wife is also his cousin-red flag #1) and I would say is your ex-wife going? He would answer I don't know. I told him probably ten times if she is going I do not want to go because I don't want any drama. So he tells me at the end of the week we will go and he thinks she isn't going she is supposed to be working. He said his sister told him that. So we drive up in the parking lot and she is getting out of their daughters car (His ex has never learned to drive) and I looked at him and said well what do we do? He knew I did not want to be in that situation. So he didn't answer me for a long time. So I said well let me get your things out and I am leaving. I got his stuff out and he just stood there, didn't say anything, then his 29 year old pot head son (red flag #2) walked up with his stupid pit bull dog with a saddle back (red flag #3) and I just drove off. I texted him later asking how he could do that to me after I told him so many times i did not want to be in that situation and he only said "Your the one who makes the drama" So...... he quit answering my texts when I said anything else all day and night no answers, called him twice no answers. then I sent him one last text...."Since you won't talk to me or answer the phone and communicate I am loading your truck with your stuff and I am through dealing with you." He never answered till his party was over late in the evening saying "For realz thats what you really want? my stuf in the truck you over reacting but if thats what you want ok" then another "So what a fucking birthday present, thank you very fucking much jerk" he spelled everything wrong, I assume he was drunk, then another "If my truck is loaded I never gonna ask you back again! you really showed me your love." I just didn't answer him....it was pointless. I think he forgot what he did to me before I loaded his truck hu? The next day he text me back after I had texted him asking when he will get his dog and junk and he said sarcastically "After you come back from Mass and after you receive communion" and I told him "I already went to confession yesterday and Fr. told me that I should not have let you move in in the first place and that you are not the man God intended me to be with" Then he said "I need more stuff, like my keys, paper work (2 checks), and the blue shoe box (has change in it). I answered him "You will get the stuff you want after you get the junk you keep leaving behinds because I don't want you leaving your stuff behind anymore, (it is just a reason for him to come back later when he knows I'm not as mad to work on getting me back). He says "whats done is done you will never be able to understand nobody even yourself." I figure he took his best shot there but I have the idea that I am probably going to do a lot better without this guy dragging me down any longer. My son will be happier too he is so tired of this guy and the way he treats me, it's a cycle of emotional abuse and he always criticizes me that is his only defense. I am going to Church and I feel better about myself this way. I do need to heal but I don't feel all that bad about it this time.
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