Mother\'s Day... what a dilemma!!!
This is supposed to be the happiest day of the Hallmark year for mom's, right? Well, this is my second Mother's Day as a single mommy of a five-year-old going on 16, 18 or adulthood at any given time. I feel weird and awkward and feel sometimes like I have either a D (Divorce) or S (single mom) branded on my forehead depending on the situation or the mood. People look at me differently and sometimes say things oddly, I guess. Maybe it's just me.... This past weekend I went to a Women's Luncheon at my friend's church. Well it happened to be the same church I went through for the DivorceCare support group meetup/classes. One of the children's facilitators was telling someone else that she knew me becasue my daughter was in the DivorceCare for Kids program. Like, is it any of her business to be talking about that to strangers???? Am I now branded among people of different circles as the divorced single mother????? My friend's friend/neighbor was doing the same thing!!!! "Oh, yeah, I know her.... she is my neighbor's longtime friend and she was in the DivorceCare classes here". Damn! And all this going on at a CHURCH????? Bizarre! So, if you are looking for me on the streets, I'll be the one with the big DS on my forehead... Hey, "DS" -- Daily Strength???? That's not so bad, huh????
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Lol, the end is cute.
I find churches to be hypocritical - probably because I grew up Catholic... do whatever you want on the M-S and then all you need to do to obsolve yourself is repent on Sunday only to do it again the next week.
Ignore them and be proud of who you are. You stood strong and followed what was best for you and your child. Keep in mid gossip usually comes because those doing it don\'t have the ass behind them to follow through on the right way to be so in turn they need to make it sound like it was a \'bad\' or \'taboo\' thing to do to feel better about themselves and their own situation.
Don\'t worry! I\'m in the same boat as you, the past 5 years I\'ve been with asshole.. This year is my first year and he\'ll be with his new Troll celebrating with her.. We\'re strong and can take on anything.. I\'ve learned that I\'m back to mommy and daddy so I guess we get 2 holidays to celebrate us being parents rather then 1.. And I\'m okay with that.. I love for people to pay attention to me.. It\'s all about me and you girl!!!
Chris! I feel you, girl! I am on the \"12 step program from Catholism\" -- a self-started program, mind you. Yes, I feel it to be a bit hypocritical as well... To each his/her own, I have no judgments so I wish others not to judge me. It is funny because one of the women that was doing that is married to an abusive alcoholic as well... apples don\'t fall far from the tree so I feel her pain also.
I\'m growing and learning to be proud of myself. I\'ve made a good life with him, endured it through him and now I\'m on the other end holding it together for my baby girl!
Thanks for the encouraging words as usual!
Kelly, Kelly bo-belly! You have just made a really good point (oh, I love the usage of Troll!!!!) -- we ARE mommy and daddy, dang it! We get two holidays to celebrate! I never thought of it that way and I just did a little jig (figuratively, hahahah).
Yay! I love having people in my court! One strong army for sure!
Hugs to you both on Mothers Day ... and then again on Fathers Day! :-)
OMG, while I don\'t have kids(so I can\'t relate to the single mom thing) I can totally relate to people treating you weird about you being divorced. It seems so bizzare to me. Like I\'m some kind of disease or something... all of sudden people act like they don\'t know what to say to you? Weird. I have never and would never do that to anyone, I guess that is a good way to isolate who is good friend material and who isn\'t. My cooworkers are especially weird about it. If I mention anything about the divorce or my xh, they get all quiet like we\'re standing in a funeral home... LOL, I guess I\'m more \'over it\' than they are? Whatever, they won\'t be invited to the next wedding! LMAO!