Mom UPdate

Just wanted to let everyone know that mom is still going....She is still very weak.  She spends a lot of time in bed...but she is still here and seems to know us....and talks more..


While they had decided she would not live, someone which we think the people who work there took all moms clothes i HAD just purchased her...it was a lot...I got sorta upset and the said the clothes just don't disappear...the nurse said she would write it up...


Well what happens that was Friday.....we go Sunday, I took her more clothes cause she had none be things that did not fit or were torn and we don't know where they came from....as I am hanging her new things, my husband opens the other closet...All the clothes were back....NOW WHAT ABOUT THAT!!!!!They had been pressed, hungup nice and neat....I WAS HAPPY but still upset that people would do that...The jewerly had not been returned though....


Mom can no longer get up or dress herself...they put her in her wheelchair...I remember when we went there 3 years ago. she was like a butterfly...visiting the sick ones,,,talking sharing and now if she is up she can barely hold her self up.


I am thankful for her still being here...I wish she was not so weak...We did not stay long Sunday as she was sleeping and there is no where to sit...Truthfully, we do not know how she is still alive.  Prayer?  Not her time? who knows? but right now that I am happy she is still alive, she has had a long life...if this sound cruel I am sorry, but if it was Prayer? and there were many....but there were many praying for my son....He still had so much life left to do....just can't help but wonder why....Going through this with mom has of course brought back all of Ken's.....as all of us sure miss that son of mine...and I will miss mom too...


love you Ken...love you mom....your mom Ken, your daughter mom  Thanks for everyone's thoughts and concerns...

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Livingjuicy
Livingjuicy

What a gift this time IS for each of you. I found towards the end of my mom's life she needed to know that she had been a good mom to me. I felt that I had told her this all along, yet those last months it was what brought light into her life and she never tired of hearing my memories of special moments that we shared.

Grateful too that most of your mom's belongings were returned. You certainly don't need that worry!

Take care of yourself, Sandi, as this is indeed a sacred time holding this tender space for your mom. I used to say to my mom that I felt as if she had one foot in the Spirit world and one foot earth side. She would smile and agree. Give that sweet mom of yours a hug from those of us without our moms.

Loving care and appreciate reading your journal to know how things are going.

XO Joanie
CFMOM2
CFMOM2

Yes this is a very difficult time for us as we watch our Moms suffer. I wish they could have some comfort rather than the pain. Trying to navigate this is truly a hard thing in light of our children's passing. Talking of the past is not an easy thing for me as I feel it puts us there instead of in the now yet recalling the happy memories is such a comfort. Sending you a hug of understanding and some peace. Love, Kathy
Andelene
Andelene

Stay strong, my friend. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Gentle hugs! xxx
Sandi2947
Sandi2947

Thanks all..Mom seems very happy to see us even if she is tired and wants to sleep. We do not stay long as she looks so tired and she tries to stay awake if we are there...How much longer she has I have no ideal...I would not have thought she would have survived before, no one does...I know she is tired...I know she is ready to go, so my prayers are for comfort and when her passing time come is is gentle for her. I doubt I will be there when it happens...We think it will be in the middle of the night or early morning, her heart will just say goodnight...when she does go she will be with Kenny and Daddy and her family. In someways although I know Ken's okay, mom will take care of him...
sonshinedeb
sonshinedeb

It's good to get an update on your Mom. What a rollercoaster she has been on. Comfortable, clean and taken care of is a relief I'm sure. Love how you comfort and visit. The return of her clothes all pressed and hung is a "miracle". As that's not usually the outcome. Thinking of you and mom as this time unfolds. Hugs, Debbie
Jasons1mom
Jasons1mom

It is such a mystery isn't it? I companioned my mother till 2 days after her 93rd birthday when she passed, February 8th, 2015. As I watched that tiny, frail lady take her last breaths I wondered how my son had died at 31 and had so much to live for and yet this little woman wanted to die for the last 13 years of her life and couldn't will herself to go. I am glad for you that your Mom is still here and, by your description, at peace...
Hugs to you and Ken, Merrilee
carasmom
carasmom

I hate that they had taken her things... can only add to your sadness... glad they brought her clothing if not her jewelry back... Its got to be a horrible soul that would do that... I pray your mom is not hurting... so hard to see our parents age and weaken and fade away... Hope you feel my heart reaching out to hug you and your mom too. Elissa