Merry Christmas and Good-Bye
Last night, as I was writing my daughter an e-mail wishing her and her family a Merry Christmas, I received a message from Facebook telling me that I had received a message from "Floyd Brookman". You folks will know Floyd as "Old Diz", the man who was banned from Daily Strength. I checked the message, as I was quite curious. I had never even thought of him since he left DS, and I wondered what he wanted of me. The following exchange between the two of us occured:
From Floyd:
"really dude? You sent this to a grieving person???" I have strong sexual urges and I just want to tell you that my fantasies border on perversion.....ARE YOU UP FOR IT""
From Me:
"I have absolutely no idea of what you are talking about, Floyd. I have never sent you ANYTHING, pal. I would think you would know better than to think I would ever do such a thing. I don't even use Facebook, let alone send messages."
From Floyd:
"This is just one of the things you sent to women on DS..you should be ashamed in your recliner and new TV"
From Me:
"I don't know what your deal is, Floyd, but I have sent no messages to anyone anywhere, except an e-mail to my daughter. I have nothing to be ashamed of, Sparky. Perhaps you ought to go bug someone else this Christmas Eve."
From Floyd:
"..I almost fell over when I got the response. he wrote and said it was not about loving her, it was that she was so in love with him and needed him so much and that he loves being needed.then went on to say that in the end all Barbara really loved was booze and cigarettes!!!!!!!!!!!!! then he writes me this 2 page note on how he and Barbara had not had sex in 7 years and how he has great sexual prowess and high levels of testosterone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!yeah..merry christmas."
From Me:
"Seriously, Floyd...this is getting ridiculous. I have no clue where any of this is coming from, but I would ask you to quit harrassing me for God's sake. Someone is clearly jerking both of our chains or you are a real sick person. How dare you speak of my wife in such a way, man? I don't know who you are communicating with from DS, but I have not even been active there since before I came here to Texas from Arizona. If you continue to harrass me, I'll have to report you to the folks who operate Facebook."
From Floyd:
"Joe. I am only copying and pasting what others sent me. You can sit there and deny it to me, but I know these people. They wouldn't make this up. There is more....you can pretend to be a man of the cloth, and snuggle up all night on but you and I know better don't we? You are a snake. Just like Mark aka curiousfish..and just like him, you quickly recovered from the death of your spouse. Shit man...you gonna drop the Widows thing now? You said it was wrong when Mark and Martha stayed with DS - I guess you'll just change the rules to meet your ever changing agenda...."
From Floyd:
"how's them chestnuts roasting?"
From Floyd:
"please tell me you're wearing pants...."
From Me:
"Sorry that you are being snookered by someone, Sparky, but it's not me. Whoever the "they" is that wouldn't make stuff up is doing exactly that. Regardless, I can clearly say nothing to convince you otherwise, so I'll just say good bye, Floyd. Please just leave me alone. Think as you will, but leave me alone."
I ended up blocking Mr. Bookman from sending me messages and I reported his harrassment of me to the Facebook Operators.
Needless to say, this has all been quite upsetting to me. I have never sent any messages to women on DS touting my sexual prowess, nor have I propositioned anyone. Clearly someone is trying to impersonate me or to use my journal comments and what have you to turn me into someone or some thing that I am not. Apparently there are those here at DS who still have problems with me over the founding of the faith based group and/or my relationship with Elizabeth.
I had deliberately avoided the main Widows and Widowers group as it was quite clear that many members there resented me and I found myself not very welcome there. That was fine. I have only posted occasionally on the new group lately and I have not posted a journal in a month or so.
At any rate, it has never been my intention to hurt anyone here at Daily Strength. It has never been my intention to do anything other than to process my grief in losing my wife to cancer 6 months ago, and to help others in processing theirs if I coulld.
Since remaining here at Daily Strengh is bringing me more grief than it is healing, and since I am clearly still irritating other "grievers" on this site, I will say my good-byes to you all now. I have found the vast majority of you people to be very compassionate, helpful souls with a common, noble purpose, and I thank you for the help you have given me. For the others, I can only hope and pray that your grief will ease to the point where you can conduct yourselves in a less hurtful and judgemental manner.
And to all of you, I wish you a Merry Christmas, and a Happier New Year.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=acxnmaVTlZA
From Floyd:
"really dude? You sent this to a grieving person???" I have strong sexual urges and I just want to tell you that my fantasies border on perversion.....ARE YOU UP FOR IT""
From Me:
"I have absolutely no idea of what you are talking about, Floyd. I have never sent you ANYTHING, pal. I would think you would know better than to think I would ever do such a thing. I don't even use Facebook, let alone send messages."
From Floyd:
"This is just one of the things you sent to women on DS..you should be ashamed in your recliner and new TV"
From Me:
"I don't know what your deal is, Floyd, but I have sent no messages to anyone anywhere, except an e-mail to my daughter. I have nothing to be ashamed of, Sparky. Perhaps you ought to go bug someone else this Christmas Eve."
From Floyd:
"..I almost fell over when I got the response. he wrote and said it was not about loving her, it was that she was so in love with him and needed him so much and that he loves being needed.then went on to say that in the end all Barbara really loved was booze and cigarettes!!!!!!!!!!!!! then he writes me this 2 page note on how he and Barbara had not had sex in 7 years and how he has great sexual prowess and high levels of testosterone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!yeah..merry christmas."
From Me:
"Seriously, Floyd...this is getting ridiculous. I have no clue where any of this is coming from, but I would ask you to quit harrassing me for God's sake. Someone is clearly jerking both of our chains or you are a real sick person. How dare you speak of my wife in such a way, man? I don't know who you are communicating with from DS, but I have not even been active there since before I came here to Texas from Arizona. If you continue to harrass me, I'll have to report you to the folks who operate Facebook."
From Floyd:
"Joe. I am only copying and pasting what others sent me. You can sit there and deny it to me, but I know these people. They wouldn't make this up. There is more....you can pretend to be a man of the cloth, and snuggle up all night on but you and I know better don't we? You are a snake. Just like Mark aka curiousfish..and just like him, you quickly recovered from the death of your spouse. Shit man...you gonna drop the Widows thing now? You said it was wrong when Mark and Martha stayed with DS - I guess you'll just change the rules to meet your ever changing agenda...."
From Floyd:
"how's them chestnuts roasting?"
From Floyd:
"please tell me you're wearing pants...."
From Me:
"Sorry that you are being snookered by someone, Sparky, but it's not me. Whoever the "they" is that wouldn't make stuff up is doing exactly that. Regardless, I can clearly say nothing to convince you otherwise, so I'll just say good bye, Floyd. Please just leave me alone. Think as you will, but leave me alone."
I ended up blocking Mr. Bookman from sending me messages and I reported his harrassment of me to the Facebook Operators.
Needless to say, this has all been quite upsetting to me. I have never sent any messages to women on DS touting my sexual prowess, nor have I propositioned anyone. Clearly someone is trying to impersonate me or to use my journal comments and what have you to turn me into someone or some thing that I am not. Apparently there are those here at DS who still have problems with me over the founding of the faith based group and/or my relationship with Elizabeth.
I had deliberately avoided the main Widows and Widowers group as it was quite clear that many members there resented me and I found myself not very welcome there. That was fine. I have only posted occasionally on the new group lately and I have not posted a journal in a month or so.
At any rate, it has never been my intention to hurt anyone here at Daily Strength. It has never been my intention to do anything other than to process my grief in losing my wife to cancer 6 months ago, and to help others in processing theirs if I coulld.
Since remaining here at Daily Strengh is bringing me more grief than it is healing, and since I am clearly still irritating other "grievers" on this site, I will say my good-byes to you all now. I have found the vast majority of you people to be very compassionate, helpful souls with a common, noble purpose, and I thank you for the help you have given me. For the others, I can only hope and pray that your grief will ease to the point where you can conduct yourselves in a less hurtful and judgemental manner.
And to all of you, I wish you a Merry Christmas, and a Happier New Year.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=acxnmaVTlZA
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