MEME: Saboteurs are everywhere//friend/former co-worker died. R.I.P. bt//still raining
"If you don't build your dreams, someone will hire you to build theirs.”
"... that does sum up how it goes, Someone is always there to try and take what "One" worked hard for so they can have it for free,
or even try to destroy it because if they can't have it and/or are too lazy to work at something, they think "why should you have anything, if I don't."
Jealousy is ugly and sadistic."
death to all saboteurs! :)
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discovered today that former co-worker/friend died. don't know the details yet. we were due. this office has a person die every 2 to 2 1/2 years. however, he hasn't worked here for about 7 years, so i don't know if that counts. i'm stunned though.
he had something happen to his foot. they cut off his toe. it got worse. they put him in a nursing home. (sounds like the same thing that they did to kv, and kv is still in a nursing home and he's only 32. then more medical mistakes and even worse).
anyway, bt's neighbor says that his son and the son's second wife came down to visit and just took things from the house while he was still alive and in the nursing home. wtf? there is no announcement even though bt was in the rotary club and a deacon at his church. wth.
the neighbor says the son even before the accident, didn't stay at bt's house. i'm amazed because as far as i know, there was no tension between them. not even a visit? the son would stay at a local hotel and they would meet for dinner. bt had a large, fairly new house. i'm so surprised!
he was one of those "wise" kind of people, who has a lot of sage advice in general. he used to travel alllll the time when he was younger he and his wife travelled for a local travel agency to check out new hotels etc for them (those are called fam trips). he had tons of time off because he worked in nyc for nyc transit as a supervisor and large companies in nyc give their workers TONS of vacation time.
even after bt moved to florida and his wife died here -- he and his new girlfriend travelled every couple of months going to timeshare and gambling weekends with church. his girlfriend used to actually WIN when she gambled. weirdest thing. everyone else would lose except for her. she just died a few years ago. i think cancer. he stayed with her the whole time and at the end, her kids flew down and brought her back to nyc - which no one thought was a good idea, but its how it went and she died in nyc.
bt is the one that put a couple of mortgages on his house and maxed out all his credit cards, trying to save his daughter who had cancer (but no insurance) she died over ten years ago. he had been trying to do a reverse mortgage on his house for years and couldn't get it through. it didn't matter much because he had other money - but he always insisted it was tight [probably from travelling alllll the time, (just a guess)].
i don't even remember his son's name because i know bt was married more than once and had kids with more than one person. you never quite expect that with seemingly conservative, conscientious people, but it is ALWAYS like that with just about everyone, even in smaller cities/towns like here. as far as i can see the son hasn't done anything to let people know, unless he handled it up north. no one seems to think so though.
still car shopping a bit. kind of stunned right now. r.i.p. bt!
"... that does sum up how it goes, Someone is always there to try and take what "One" worked hard for so they can have it for free,
or even try to destroy it because if they can't have it and/or are too lazy to work at something, they think "why should you have anything, if I don't."
Jealousy is ugly and sadistic."
death to all saboteurs! :)
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discovered today that former co-worker/friend died. don't know the details yet. we were due. this office has a person die every 2 to 2 1/2 years. however, he hasn't worked here for about 7 years, so i don't know if that counts. i'm stunned though.
he had something happen to his foot. they cut off his toe. it got worse. they put him in a nursing home. (sounds like the same thing that they did to kv, and kv is still in a nursing home and he's only 32. then more medical mistakes and even worse).
anyway, bt's neighbor says that his son and the son's second wife came down to visit and just took things from the house while he was still alive and in the nursing home. wtf? there is no announcement even though bt was in the rotary club and a deacon at his church. wth.
the neighbor says the son even before the accident, didn't stay at bt's house. i'm amazed because as far as i know, there was no tension between them. not even a visit? the son would stay at a local hotel and they would meet for dinner. bt had a large, fairly new house. i'm so surprised!
he was one of those "wise" kind of people, who has a lot of sage advice in general. he used to travel alllll the time when he was younger he and his wife travelled for a local travel agency to check out new hotels etc for them (those are called fam trips). he had tons of time off because he worked in nyc for nyc transit as a supervisor and large companies in nyc give their workers TONS of vacation time.
even after bt moved to florida and his wife died here -- he and his new girlfriend travelled every couple of months going to timeshare and gambling weekends with church. his girlfriend used to actually WIN when she gambled. weirdest thing. everyone else would lose except for her. she just died a few years ago. i think cancer. he stayed with her the whole time and at the end, her kids flew down and brought her back to nyc - which no one thought was a good idea, but its how it went and she died in nyc.
bt is the one that put a couple of mortgages on his house and maxed out all his credit cards, trying to save his daughter who had cancer (but no insurance) she died over ten years ago. he had been trying to do a reverse mortgage on his house for years and couldn't get it through. it didn't matter much because he had other money - but he always insisted it was tight [probably from travelling alllll the time, (just a guess)].
i don't even remember his son's name because i know bt was married more than once and had kids with more than one person. you never quite expect that with seemingly conservative, conscientious people, but it is ALWAYS like that with just about everyone, even in smaller cities/towns like here. as far as i can see the son hasn't done anything to let people know, unless he handled it up north. no one seems to think so though.
still car shopping a bit. kind of stunned right now. r.i.p. bt!
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Sorry about your friend/co-worker hon. ((((hugs)))
Like the picture and quotes.
Take care 38 and again so sorry about your friend. and greenies
*hugs* My condolences for your co worker. If you need someone to talk to, just send me a message!
thanks for your concern and good wishes - both of you.
so, as always, a death, people start calling, and its like sweeping out from under a rug. i talked to nick, but i will save that until later. lots of stuff i didn\'t know there. and talked to bobm, who knew bt longer than i did.
bobm says that bt didn\'t know his son well until 25 years ago. when the kid was growing up bt had nothing to do with the boy because his wife didn\'t want him to. he says bt paid for the boy\'s school and college and his first couple of cars and the deposit on his first piece of real estate. he did care and showed concern, but it was all done secretly because his wife absolutely did not want him around the son nor the son\'s mother at all.
wow! its amazing how difficult things were a long time ago. nowadays that would all go to court and the court would make the decision and tell the new wife to grow up kind of thing. bt raised his daughter with his wife and it was always the wife and daughter in his life, not his son.
after the wife died, bt immediately tried to make friends with the son, who was married with children by then, and get to know his grandson. he says it went well, until the grandson hit his teens and his son got divorced. the first wife was all for them reuniting and a very helpful woman. however, when the SON remarried, the new wife wanted no part of a relative in florida and had her own daughter to raise. if they visited they stayed in a hotel. she was against him before she even met him because she considers what he did abandonment. even though he had been on good terms with his son for almost 20 years by then. wtf. another guy we used to work with, forest, was the same circumstance but his riff with his children was caused by alcoholism. he visits them yearly in north carolina and didn\'t know them until they were 30 and married with children. another one. same circumstance but totally different reasons. forest was the son of a lawyer and in his second year of lawschool when he discovered he preferred drinking. it ruined the next 15 years of his life basically.
anyway, bt was always stable and did well and tried to secretly help the son and get to know him after his wife died. the second wife claims that isn\'t good enough and wanted him to get lost. wow! so that is why taking care of things was a problem. okay. if its a problem, bt has about a zillion friends so let him put a friend on or his church and they will take care of things. instead, the son and wife #2 came down and started emptying the house while bt was still alive. wth? i can\'t believe all the crap with this. we still don\'t have a death certificate or even know exactly when all of this happened. there should be an announcement, an obit, a church service and NOTHING is being done. but so quick to take bt\'s things though huh?
i had no idea that he was in the middle of all this crap, though bobm says i did know. so i guess i forgot. seems so odd that bt would have all this trouble, because he\'s so stable normally.
what happened with bt is after his wife, he went with a girlfriend and she was the main thing, until she died. he also spent all his money trying to save his daughter, which i admire, but his son\'s wife doesn\'t admire it at all. her view is, bt gave no thought to his son and sees him as its convenient for him. bt\'s hope had been that his son would move in down here, though he\'d only want that if his girlfriend wasn\'t around. so same bt, just different woman. bobm says that bt always lets the women in his life, run his life. and ironically, the son is doing the same thing.
doesn\'t change any of it. its just sad. bobm\'s wife actually AGREES with the new second wife. so i have a feeling there is more that i don\'t know again. still doesn\'t change that bt deserves more respect for all this. he was a good man. he had a life. sounds like the son has no intention of letting anyone know anything. the neighbor says the house is sitting empty and no one has made one move to do anything with it. its just sitting there. so sorry all this happened bt.