married with kids but still lonely
Like the title says I'm married and have 2 kids and I'm still feeling lonely. I love my husband and kids with all my heart!!!!! I just feel like no one really cares. My husband says he love me and after 23 years of marriage he still holds my hand while we watch tv together. It just seems like he is so concerned about everybody and everything else that goes on around him. I know he is tired after coming home from work but he just doesn't seem to communicate with us. He will talk to everyone else like the neighbors, calls family (they can drive a person nuts), and everyone else but when he is done he doesn't have much to say to anyone else. I joke with him and tell him that in order for him to talk to me I'm going to give him a call on the phone from my cell phone for him to talk to me. Any one have any suggestions on how to get more communication from him. Or is there anyone out there that would like to chat with me?
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part of what you are feeling is the stage and age that the two of you are at....but you are recognizing it.
you didn\'t mention how old your kids are. i\'m guessing they are active teens. i\'m guessing your involvement in their lives is becoming less and less. now you are becoming aware of a void in your life. a void that you wish your husband would step up and fill.
best advice i have for you would be to be blunt and tell hubby just how you are feeling. let him know that you are lonely not for his presence, but the emotional and physical intimace that the two of you had some years ago. it can still be achieved. he just needs to know and to know how to accomplish it.
I\'m married and a stay at home mom too. IT\'s not easy. We love our families but its hard not having friends. I\'m very shy as well. My hubby and I have been married for 27 years I was 19 when we got married. Our 3 oldests are sons who are now married with children of their own and we have a 13 y.o. at home. School starts soon so I\'m hoping to find a job. I can\'t stand the isolation any more. I\'m here during the day or evenings if you want to chat. You\'re not alone