March 19 2012

Clearly, my AH is full of s***.  As long as I "behave", that is keep my thoughts, needs, requests, etc. to myself and have virtually NO expectations of him, we can live happily side by side.  H was in a very pissy, irritable mood on Sunday, I took him by the hands and asked "with respect and concern" what was on his mind..... well. f*** me running !! the answer was that he was so sick and tired of me leaving my coffee cup on the counter on my way out the door for work AND to make matters even worse.... when I drink tea: I LEAVE THE TEA BAG IN THE CUP. In the past these minor house keeping issues were always related to drinking..... so when i said "you are drunk" he would scream "there is dust".... and his other favorite line resurfaced which is  "my(his) expectations are very high", so in thinking this over, he was probably pissy because: with me home for the weekend slipping in a drink or two is difficult.  I did not address my suspicions (losing my desire to care about it), but did try to have a discussion about speaking to me in a kinder more respectful manner.  he does NOT get  it, nor can he accept any responsibility for ANY of our relationship issues. so now I will just take care of myself from now on. I will make sure he does not have to do even one thing for me.  but along with that goes friendship, intimacy(LOL-as if), relationship I need his share of the income to live a decent lifestyle , so be it.