Make negative thoughts positive

Here is something that I think can help people who are depressed.  People usually get depressed by thinking their way into it.  We need to monitor our thoughts and catch ourselves when we have start thinking negative.  Try to flip every negative thought upside down and turn it into something positive.  If we made a mistake, try to think of what you learned and how you can apply that to make your future brighter.  If we are anxious or afraid about something happening, try to think of positive outcomes that could happen instead.  Here are some examples. 1.  "I failed.  I am a loser."      change into...     "I did not do well this time.  I am going to try harder and make some changes to make sure I do better next time." 2.  "I miss my girlfriend (or boyfriend).  I cannot live without her (or him)."  Change to...     "I had a really great feeling when I was in this relationship.  I will try hard to meet someone else so that I can get that feeling back.  This time maybe it will last." 3.  "I am pathetic.  I can't do anything right."  Change to...    "While there are definitely areas about myself that I need to work on, I am overall a good person and have something positive to offer.  While there are some areas I am not good at, there are other areas where I do have talent.  Maybe people do not recognize it, or maybe it needs to be developed, but it is there and I am going to make the most of it." 4.  "I am so alone."  Change to...     "I am looking forward to when I can spend time with my friends again.  In the meantime, I am going to make good use of the time I have by doing something productive." We need to turn all of our negative thoughts around like this, even if we cannot acept them as true at the time.  By thinking positively, we will make ourself feel better rather than worse.  We can inspire ourselves to make the positive changes that are necessary to turn things around.  In short, negative thoughts are counterproductive whereas positive thoughts are productive.  So think positive. Nick

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deleted_user
deleted_user

So out of curiousity...Why do you want to help people like us?
MaybeICanHelp
MaybeICanHelp

Good question. I learned about BPD and related problems when trying to help a friend whom I discovered had suicidal ideations. I became aware of how much suffering this disorder causes. I also have become aware of how people with this diorder are misunderstood and often do not get the help they need. Finally, I find many components of DBT and CBT interesting and helpful to me, even though I do not have BPD. I would like to learn more about them and pass on my knowledge to help others. That is the short answer. I could go on if you are interested.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I got your message and have not had to time to really sit down and write you back.. When i see you on again.. I would like to chat..
tattyhead184
tattyhead184

I tried CBT several years ago but didn\'t really work hard enough at it. I found it quite difficult. I\'ve been advised to get some counselling but I\'ll be going for some \'Mindfullness\' treatment. Have you heard of this?
tattyhead184
tattyhead184

Sorry - should have said \'as well\'. I\'ll be going for both.
MaybeICanHelp
MaybeICanHelp

My understanding is that DBT incorporates aspects of both mindfulness and CBT, but does it in a way that is focused on the problems associated with BPD. So I do not think it is that CBT would not work, but that DBT may be more appropriate.