Mad?

So this morning he went fishing. Which is good because we can totally use the food. But I'm a little pissed. I'm here everyday and every night. Always in this small apartment with the little one. While he goes out and works and whatever. But when I want to go have a girls night he either gets hurt or upset "you don't want to hang out with me". Whine, whine, whine. What the hell is that all about?!! Why is it that most men don't think about our feelings? And I'm not just talking BP's I think it's most men (no offense to my guys friends). I'm a person too, I need a break from the little one, I have wants and needs also!!!! I know, I know, you all are not mind readers and don't know if we don't tell you. I'm sorry, but that's just an excuse. Think about us sometimes, put yourself in OUR shoes and think, Wow, maybe she's cranky because she never gets out, maybe she's cranky because she needs some sort of break. Think about SOMETHING other than yourselves!!! I'm a very patient understanding person, wife and mother. I can put up with just about anything and not let it get to me. But after awhile I need a release also. I know he's stressed with everything going on right now, our financial situation, the "divorce", but he's not the only one affected. This all affects me also!!! When I try and tell him this, I really don't think he listens or cares. Sometimes I think he thinks that because I don't always react emotionally about things that I don't care or that I think he'll fix it all. Which is BS because I am the "calm, cool and collect" one. I try and figure out how to fix things from a rational, not emotional point. I don't know if it's the BP or what, but sometimes I just want to escape and never come back. I know that's not the answer and running away from problems is not the way to handle them. And I'm pretty good at facing things head on (granted I have my issues I avoid) but I've never been one to run.  I just want, need some sort of break from the dishes, the vaccuming, the little one, from life itself. I just have a feeling I'm not going to get it for another 16 years.  

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Well no offense taken, at least not from this guy. Yes we are not mind readers but I am able to look at my wife and see she needs a break. Granted I am not sure what BP does to a persons thought train so I can not speak from that point of view. I help with the laundry, the vacuuming and the dishes (okay we have a dish washer, but I used to wash them when we did not or at least helped dry them). My wife goes out to lunch with friends occasionally (okay our kids are in school) but when then were younger she used to go to the meetings or even just for a walk and I watched the kids. Hey parent duty is not limited to women only. Granted if you are a stay at home mom (notice I will not say don\'t work because being mom is work enough) and the guy gets out sometimes we do not look at it as we get out. We look at it as we just go to a different place to get the stress but I do understand that allows us outside communication. Stand your ground, unless hubby is physically incapable of dealing with the little one or you are worried about the little ones safety, and make time out for yourself or you will surcome to stress and that will be no good for anyone. Marriage is by no means easy but it is a shared responsibilty and one taken together.