Lost a Friend
I lost a friend this afternoon. He died from complications following surgery. Some would say Kirby was living on borrowed time. He had died 3 times on the operating table during bypass surgery a few years ago and they had to put a pig valve in his heart. They had to transport him to a big city hospital from one of our local hospitals in a helicopter and he was in such bad shape, he didn't remember it. He started a collection of pigs to honor his valve and his friends gave him anything pig when they found it. He, then, had a pacemaker put in and had problems with it. He retired about a year ago. I worked with Kirby for 19 years while at Channel 10 here in Waco. We didn't always get along. I guess you could, say at times, we had a love/hate relationship. It was a running joke around the station that we hated each other, but we liked it that way. I even introduced him to my two sisters at the visitation for my mom as the guy I hated. But, there was a true friendship there. I remember a funny story about him. I had dated a woman from a singles group who said she knew him. I asked her how she knew him and she said she didn't think she should tell me how. Well, she finally told me and the next Monday I told him about the conversation and how the woman didn't want to tell me how she knew him. He asked me if it was because he was gay. That was quite a shock to me and told him no. I told him she had told me they were in an epilepsy support group. He asked me if it made a difference to me that he was gay. I said no,,,"should it"? Although we had our differences, I will miss Kirby. RIP my friend.
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Sorry for your loss. I lost the last of our friends three months after my husband died. Not sure if I ever dealt with it as my husband\'s lass was my final week of chemotherapy and I was the one that was suppose to die. Everyone else did instead -- now I\'m alone - a kind of death in a way I now realize.
((hugs)) Patricia
I am sorry about the loss of your friend, may he rest in peace. it is always tough when you lose somebody, and my thoughts are with you. Take care, and interesting to know you worked at channel 10, what did you do? Hugs
sorry about you loss. i lost my finacee\' the 9th of april... it is just a horrible thing and there really are no words to console.. know we understand cause we are living thru something similiar and we all understand here - you have come to a good place. i like you response to your friend when he asked if it matter to you if he were gay... some of the coolest realist people i have meet in my life are gay men.
hugs and sorrow very much for your loss
Sounds like he lived a long life, and you spent a good part of it with him. Some people spend more time with co-workers than they do with their own family. He was probably the brother you didn\'t have. Sorry to hear about your loss, but at least you will always have the memories of him to keep you smiling. I bet you\'ll be thinking alot about that in the coming days. Much hugs and kisses, take care. Deb :o)