Listening

What is listening. Can anyone truely listen. People can hear sure, but is that the same. No matter what the other person is always thinking of something else like "Do I have something in my teeth?" or "This person is fucked up! What I'm I gonna say?....I'm hungry did I eat breakfast?" How do you know they care. How can you find that someone. High school is a bitch. Fake friends,toxic friends,unthoughtful friends...then no friends. Somehow not talking to friends who may or not care/listen by choice is better than not talking because there is no one. I talk to myself and sometimes I don't even listen or pay attention. So how could someone else? Friends...how the hell to people find real people. Just listen to me is also the most arrogant thing someone could say. Because no one would LISTEN to that and would just ignore it.