LISTEN UP! YES, YOU!

IT HAS COME TO MY ATTENTION THAT NASTY REMARKS ARE PROLIFERATING THIS SITE.  I've had a couple of friends who now avoid the site completely or come to this site very minimally due to this and it is totally not right!  We may be ill but we are not stupid so when nasty remarks are made whether using a person's name or not, they DO GET THE MESSAGE! Like I always tell my kids, "If you can't say something NICE, keep your mouth shut." Dear God people! Do we all at this site not have enough of a burden and issues to deal with like meds, moron "expert" drs, tests, etc. that we have to rip & tear at each other? COME ON! We all should be old enough to know how to "play nice" and if you can't "play nice", then take your toys and go home. I, thankfully, haven't had the experiences, but I've had others tell me their horror stories. We have to have some place where we can ask, learn, listen, and be understood. So, again, if you can't say something nice, just keep your mouth shut.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

I agree 100% fic. This is the very reason why I have only you as a female friend. Society, and the media encourage women to scratch ea others eyes out, to be estrogen filled and hormonally emotional. Tv shows that glamorize women and girls being hateful towards one another are everywhere esp on tv shows. The worse you behave, the more attention you get.
This nonsense has to STOP. Women have to learn how to create a sisterhood and bond instead of always being nasty. I do realize on this site that some are also under the influence of medication as well which may contribute to some nastiness. If meds are making ppl do that, it might be time to change them.
I always got along better with men as they are laid back, non hormonal, and even if you do have a spat with them its not held against you for the rest of your life.
I am very glad you brought this point up. We already have so called doctors..and the so called gvt ready to nail us at every turn just bec THEY dont know about our illness nor do they seem to care...the LAST thing we need is to be judged by our peers or verbally abused.
Well done FIC.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I better clarify I do have some women friends on this site other than you, but in general women are much harder to deal with. I dont wanna be fussed at by the women on here who I am close to LOL!
FIC
FIC

Got ya! And \"AMEN\" pass the offering plate! I can get along with just about anyone. Heck it took one of my in-laws 20 yrs to get on my crap list (been married 30 yrs) and when hubby asked why, I said \"Look, they worked long and hard to get to the top of my crap list so I\'m just letting them enjoy their work.\" ROFLOL I\'ve since removed my \"crap list\" from my life........PS IT GOT TOOO LONG ROFLOL
keepingon
keepingon

I can\'t imagine that people would argue and use profanity if it hurt others. I just usually drop a person if they are going to be vulgar. They have the right to talk on their journal, but I also have the right to not listen...so I don\'t.
Nan
FIC
FIC

Yes, you are correct. I was at a site and trying to introduce improvement of humanity via kindness, mercy, gentleness, etc. and you would have thought I was suggesting anarchy! I was never so attacked in my life! I finally signed off and said, if you won\'t look in the mirror, how can you ever improve? Sadly, humanity needs to be called something else for those who refuse to act humanely!