Letter to my ex
Letter I will never send....
I"ve talked so much to you and you just agree and never change anything. I hate that you make me be so heartless and make you figure this out on your own. But you are a grown man!
I'm sorry your car is broken and the tags are expired and it won't pass inspection. But truthfully, if you would go look for a job that paid you more than 8.50 and hour you might be able to get that fixed. Even when jobs were begging for you, you turned them down so that you can work nights and have the least amount of hassle possible.
Have you called about cashing out your 401k yet? No? suprise suprise. I gave you all the information you needed for it it months ago...
Your tooth is hurting? Poor baby.. You have full cover dental insurance! Don't be a dumb ass and make an appointment with the dentist!
Tired of living with your gross pot head roommate? How much time have you spent saving money or looking for another place. NO? Then stop griping.
My first instinct is to save you as always, move in with me, you can save money, let me start giving you half my paycheck to help you out of this jamm.
Your lonely? Then you shouldn't have fucking left!!!!!
I'm getting angry and just OVER feeling sorry for him. It keep me up all night wondering how he is going to get back and forth to work. I have to let it go. ITs not my problem anymore.....
I"ve talked so much to you and you just agree and never change anything. I hate that you make me be so heartless and make you figure this out on your own. But you are a grown man!
I'm sorry your car is broken and the tags are expired and it won't pass inspection. But truthfully, if you would go look for a job that paid you more than 8.50 and hour you might be able to get that fixed. Even when jobs were begging for you, you turned them down so that you can work nights and have the least amount of hassle possible.
Have you called about cashing out your 401k yet? No? suprise suprise. I gave you all the information you needed for it it months ago...
Your tooth is hurting? Poor baby.. You have full cover dental insurance! Don't be a dumb ass and make an appointment with the dentist!
Tired of living with your gross pot head roommate? How much time have you spent saving money or looking for another place. NO? Then stop griping.
My first instinct is to save you as always, move in with me, you can save money, let me start giving you half my paycheck to help you out of this jamm.
Your lonely? Then you shouldn't have fucking left!!!!!
I'm getting angry and just OVER feeling sorry for him. It keep me up all night wondering how he is going to get back and forth to work. I have to let it go. ITs not my problem anymore.....
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honey, as my coworker says, \"it\'s not my bag to drag!\" my therapist also had a good one, \"you can\'t expect a sick person to act well.\" both very true and spot on. i too always want to save chris. but why? when in the hell does he save me? never! ever! he sounds like your guy. complain about shit, but never do anything to change it. that deffinition by textbook is called \"insanity\". fuck that. i dont want to be linked to his insanity. we\'re really better off. we\'re not their moms or saviors. as you said: \"you\'re a grown ass man!\" you\'re pretty, and funny. don\'t let him in your head or heart anymore. he doesnt deserve such a priviledge.
Great letter to help you out. Sometimes it\'s good to write things down. He\'s a man, he made his choices. He\'s no longer your responibility.
It\'s time to think about yourself S. I hope you find some peace. Hugz! Have a great day--if possible!
I know it\'s a man thing to try to problem solve, but have you thought about going no contact? It\'s been the only way I\'ve been able to stay sane, personally...
I agree, I think you need some no contact to bring some more sanity in your life.
i know the just think about yourself line hurts. But only last week i saw a man i did not recognise and now i know he has been leading me on a merry dance. Only the other day he texted me to say \" Don\'t right me off bud\" yep all on here would be able to see that he is using me as a safety net, an option. I insisted he not be present in my home so often as i feel stupid, hurt and please to see him all at the same time. My face had become so swollen from crying. I don\'t know what shifted my mindset but i could see so clearly that he was using me the EASY option. Today i feel great, awesome the old me is back and not settling for anything less than what i know i deserve. I know its hard but believe in yourself. You said you wanted to experience life, smell, taste, adventure. YOU are awesome and you need to see that.