letter from daughter-in-law
this is a long letter but if you can take the time i could use suggestions on how to respond.
susan
it is hard for me to write this letter because i never thought i would need to. but i am at a point in my life that i have to confront my issues once and for all, no matter what the result of it could be.
i was hoping that after the almost10 years of me being with scott i would find a mother on you, or a friend unfortunatley couldn't find either. it really hurts me that we can't have a relationship.
i do have some theories that is (i really hope i am wrong but i don't think so).1)that i am hispanic and you would like scott to marry a nice pretty-american girl instead of me,2)that you are easily influenced by kjera in convincing you that i am a witch because i am able to have what she can't which is happiness in my marriage and that i was able to become a citizen and her husband can't, in my opinion she is jealous of my life; you let her influence your opinions about me.3) you simply don't like me, which is fine if you don't.
you always seem to be thinking only in yourself and because of that you do things that hurt others. for example when you are mad at scott you ignore kenny, or maybe because he is my son and for that the rejection. that, as a mother, hurts me the most,my parents would never do something like that to one of their grandchildren; or the comment you made the outer day at becky's "my kids wouldn't do that at my house"(when they were playing on the couch) when you were referring to nate, nickolas and ash, like my children are not your kids. you need to think that sometimes you shouldn't say what you are thinking.
i know you don't care how i feel, but i had to say this in order to sleep and live in peace,because i haven't slept in a while just thinking about the whole situation with you.
i want to be a good daughter of my heavenly father and if i don't try to fix this i won't be able to get in the temple, i can't go there with bad feelings in my heart.
i really hope someday we can leave everything behind us and start over and become a real family since my direct family is so far away.
thanks for reading this letter and taking the time, i didn't mean to be so long.
regards, andrea
i found a poem in the book "i may be bi-polar but i aint crazy" called don't judge me in your ignorance
why must i be like this?
i didn't choose to be born,especially like this.
i didn't choose to have a sick mind.
yet i am held responsible for irresponsible decisions.
short attention span,difficulty concentrating, and poor judgement.
who would like to be like this?
snap out of it!
wonderful line.
awesome words of ignorance.
no one knows how this is who hasn't been there.
i am sick of people and their unawareness
they make it so simplistic.
yet it is so complicated.
wake up people!
come out of the darkness of your arrogance and ignorance. the one with the sick mind needs your compassion, not your judgment. do you think this poem fits and would you even give a response to it?
susan
it is hard for me to write this letter because i never thought i would need to. but i am at a point in my life that i have to confront my issues once and for all, no matter what the result of it could be.
i was hoping that after the almost10 years of me being with scott i would find a mother on you, or a friend unfortunatley couldn't find either. it really hurts me that we can't have a relationship.
i do have some theories that is (i really hope i am wrong but i don't think so).1)that i am hispanic and you would like scott to marry a nice pretty-american girl instead of me,2)that you are easily influenced by kjera in convincing you that i am a witch because i am able to have what she can't which is happiness in my marriage and that i was able to become a citizen and her husband can't, in my opinion she is jealous of my life; you let her influence your opinions about me.3) you simply don't like me, which is fine if you don't.
you always seem to be thinking only in yourself and because of that you do things that hurt others. for example when you are mad at scott you ignore kenny, or maybe because he is my son and for that the rejection. that, as a mother, hurts me the most,my parents would never do something like that to one of their grandchildren; or the comment you made the outer day at becky's "my kids wouldn't do that at my house"(when they were playing on the couch) when you were referring to nate, nickolas and ash, like my children are not your kids. you need to think that sometimes you shouldn't say what you are thinking.
i know you don't care how i feel, but i had to say this in order to sleep and live in peace,because i haven't slept in a while just thinking about the whole situation with you.
i want to be a good daughter of my heavenly father and if i don't try to fix this i won't be able to get in the temple, i can't go there with bad feelings in my heart.
i really hope someday we can leave everything behind us and start over and become a real family since my direct family is so far away.
thanks for reading this letter and taking the time, i didn't mean to be so long.
regards, andrea
i found a poem in the book "i may be bi-polar but i aint crazy" called don't judge me in your ignorance
why must i be like this?
i didn't choose to be born,especially like this.
i didn't choose to have a sick mind.
yet i am held responsible for irresponsible decisions.
short attention span,difficulty concentrating, and poor judgement.
who would like to be like this?
snap out of it!
wonderful line.
awesome words of ignorance.
no one knows how this is who hasn't been there.
i am sick of people and their unawareness
they make it so simplistic.
yet it is so complicated.
wake up people!
come out of the darkness of your arrogance and ignorance. the one with the sick mind needs your compassion, not your judgment. do you think this poem fits and would you even give a response to it?
Replies
Susan,
Why don\'t you write to me about how YOU really feel about Andrea? I would love to read it and, if needed, I can guide you in positive ways to deal with what she perceives as your \"differences.\" Can you do this? I think it will pay off well for you. Write to me here, on DS, in private mail or you can write to m at anyse1@mac.com Take care, hugs and more. Neesie
she is really hard to be around. her personality is bossy. as for her being hispanic...i don\'t care. he did have a sweetheart that was american when she pushed herself on him breaking up both relationships. she won\'t talk to me much when i do make the effort to come over. she holds scott like a puppet on a string(s). she is the one that causes the hard feelings between her son and me. i used to watch him when he was little and going to preschool. i had to take him on because he would bite someone. she shoved her way into my apartment situation putting kjera and me together. he (scott) called the police to try to get kjera out of the apartment and while on the phone kjera and i had a fight so they came out on a domestic violence. kjera was yelling at the cop and i told him i wouldn\'t press charges but because she did it in front of a minor (he was in the car not in the apartment) they charged her and not only that she kept yelling at the cop so she got charged with resisting arrest. kjera already had an apartment lined up in two weeks but she was thrown out in the cold with a one year old because of them. she did change scott, he had a good personality, was handy and was an overall great kid until she brainwashed him against his own family. the part about telling the kids to stay off the furniture was true except there were four kids in the room and she had no idea which ones i was talking to she just assumed it. she never disciplines her kids in public but is a bitch to them at home. so double standard. so yeah i have a hard time with her. she attacks me emotionally and has no idea what i go through.