Let me see if I get this right...
I dress the baby, buy her food, toys, etc.
I jump during the night when the baby wakes up to take care of her needs
I play with the baby all the time and when no one has the time or patience to do so
I pay in full for day care and I do all this by working very hard - last week I put in 72 hours.
I wake up every weekend at 6:00am or when the baby wakes up and stay with her until he wakes up around noon to grasp some grandpa duties...
And this is what I get:
Yesterday I had to listen of how rude I am
Today this monster that my daughter is came to the house and she woke up the baby because she wanted to take the baby out to a baby shower party. The baby woke up crying (of course) and when she saw me she wanted me to pick her up. My daughter, in total jealousy, says out loud that her daughter would not behave like this that she was the baby's mother and she would not think that I am the baby's mother. That I am "stealing" her baby.
What a ?....I'm so done with all this crap.
Now I am here, working some more, writing my heart out, and all i want is to stop. Stop all this.
I want out.
I jump during the night when the baby wakes up to take care of her needs
I play with the baby all the time and when no one has the time or patience to do so
I pay in full for day care and I do all this by working very hard - last week I put in 72 hours.
I wake up every weekend at 6:00am or when the baby wakes up and stay with her until he wakes up around noon to grasp some grandpa duties...
And this is what I get:
Yesterday I had to listen of how rude I am
Today this monster that my daughter is came to the house and she woke up the baby because she wanted to take the baby out to a baby shower party. The baby woke up crying (of course) and when she saw me she wanted me to pick her up. My daughter, in total jealousy, says out loud that her daughter would not behave like this that she was the baby's mother and she would not think that I am the baby's mother. That I am "stealing" her baby.
What a ?....I'm so done with all this crap.
Now I am here, working some more, writing my heart out, and all i want is to stop. Stop all this.
I want out.
Replies
I understand financial analysts hours are long but you need some rest. This is formula for disaster. Your daughter is going to keep trying to infect you with her choas. Is there such a thing as an enforceable limit with her? I can\'t remember if daughter lives with you. If she doesn\'t start limiting when she can come over. She has to make appointment. Make meeting place someone close to your home but not in it. Minute she starts you leave. Make a behavior contract. They do this in psych alot. Inappropriate behaviors have definite consequences. It\'s put in writing and person signs it.
That baby loves you. Heck if I were that baby I\'d adore you. You are my hero. Your daughter cannot keep getting away with her irresponsible behavior. Tough love, rest and plan something if even for few hours which you will enjoy. Something pampering.
daughter does nto live with me, but her dad does. He allows the come and go and she is daddy\'s little girl so everythign she does to me is away from his eyes or when done close, he feels that it was not that bad. Where do I find the best divorce lawyer in town?
this is sooo sad. that poor baby! and poor you! my husband is the same way with our youngest daughter. she can do no wrong in his book. I get blamed for everything. I can see myself in this exact situation. I don\'t think there is an easy out for you. I\'m so sorry. Protect that precious gift from God. You\'re the only one who seems to care about her and for her. You\'re her guardian Angel here on Earth.
I\'m so sorry you can\'t get any kind of help at home! You give and give....when will it be your turn for someone to give back to you?
You need \"you\" time....down time....
I am so sorry that your going through this. Your the babies lifeline and your daughter knows it. I think it is time to step down and have her take care of her own child.
I am sort of having issues with helping friends and family but when I need help - is anyone around. NOT. Just alittle different variation than you are going through.
my thoughts are with you.....
Jen XXOO