Last Year

Tony Curtis is gone.  I was such a fan of his when I was a child.  I thought he and Jack Lemmon were just the cuties actors in Hollywood. 
Last year around this time, my husband treated me to a theater event.  We went to see "Some Like it Hot."  Tony Curtis was there in person, signing autographs.  The line was huge, almost like he was still that same dashing man he'd been when the film was made.  The theater is one of my favorites.  They serve you food while you watch the movie.  DH and I had hamburgers and pizza while Tony Curtis sat on the stage talking about working with Marily Monroe and Jack Lemmon.  I was thrilled.
At the time the actor was 84.  He'd had obvious plastic surgery, but I have to say he still looked good.  I thought he'd live to be 100.  My husband wanted to take me because he thought how many opportunities did we have left to see him.  Thinking back, I guess  I could  have thought of it the other way, how many times will I have to sit with my husband, watching Tony Curtis?
Tony Curtis outlived DH.  He had 85 years, my husband, 59.  Strange how life is.  My father is 82.  He talks about people who used to make comments to him back when he was in his 70s.  You should retire, they would say.  You don't have that much time left.  These people were in their 40s and 50s.  They're all dead now. 
I guess the lesson for us all is, we just don't know how much time we have left.  Three actors have passed recently.  One in her 70s, one in his 80s, and Gloria Stuart who was 100 years old.  The number doesn't matter.  We've got to live our lives, make an impact, find enjoyment out of life.  For those of us who've lost our spouses, it is hard.  Yet, it must be done because God didn't leave us here just to breath air.  We need to make something of ourselves.  We need to impact someone's life in a positive way.
Yesterday at work, an employee was lamenting the death of Tony Curtis.  He talked about the movies he made and how much he would be missed.  I told him few would know the actor.  He was shocked, saying that the actor had been too big a star to ever be forgotten.  I told him to ask people under 35 who he was.  For the rest of the day he did.  And of the 10 people he asked, not one person knew the actor.  They also didn't know Jack Benny, Tony Randall, Clark Gable.  The list goes on.
I guess what I'm saying is that so many times we put everything into our career.  We forget our families, our friends.  But in the end, no one remembers your career.  What they do remember is your life and how it impacted them.  Positive or negative, that's what they remember.  I read Tony Curtis daughter was estranged from him.  I'm sure she is thinking of her father now.  Perhapse trying to remember the good times.  And most likely, trying to forget the bad. 
It's up to us what we make of our life.  I intend to work harder to see that I live what's left of mine to it's fullest extent.  It won't be easy.  I have good and bad days.  Sometimes I can help others.  Sometimes I need help.  I'll take it one day at a time.