Labor Day
Spent the whole weekend with my son which was great. The STBX offered to let him spend the night with me but I wasn't sure if that was allowed at this point and I couldn't get ahold of my lawyer to check so I had to pass. We tried to make our hiking trip but the weather was against us. We got up to the hiking area and it was pouring rain. Of course my son is looking at me like you brought me up here for this. I told you it was going to be raining so I had to agree that it was a bad plan. Then just as we got down the mountain the sun breaks out and it's just beautifull. By that time he had his mind set on roller skating so that's what we headed off to do. He's really improved a lot at skating in fact he went at least 2 hours without falling down. I guess I'll have to learn how to go so I can get out there with him. Overall I held it together pretty good. Before we headed up to Mnt Baker we had a rough patch, mainly because he wanted to go skating from the get go and I didn't want to go at all. Silly I know but the STBX is a great skater and I felt a little inadequate. The I got him upset by me being upset and it was a big teary eyed mess. We got it sorted out and the day went pretty good overall. Sometimes I get upset because of what my wife is doing to him and what she isn't doing to him. She has totally shattered his life as he knew it. We had a good family and things were actually going good for all of us. He was doing well in school and we both had good jobs. Now all that has been thrown by the wayside, because she is being selfish and putting herself above both of us. Sad thing is I don't think she can every be happy until she deals with her stuff. It's an empty void that she can't fill. Then I feel bad for her because she is letting our son's childhood pass her by. She doesn't want to do things with him or just spend time with him. He was upset Sun because he wanted to make her breakfast and she didn't want him to. Little things like that are what destroys a child love. She is dismissive and short with him when it disrupts her plans. I guess we all just have to say our prayers and hope for the best.
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S..my prayers are with you now. You have been MY soldier. I cannot believe she wouldn\'t want her son to make her breakfast. I would kill for that favor. I hate to see both you and your son upset and I don\'t know really what to say but that I know are doing the right thing...it\'s too bad she has to be such a nasty woman as to do this to hurt your son just to get you back..or so it seems. I\'m thinking of you but it sounds like you had a great time on the weekend regardless. Thank you so much, (yet again) for your vote and support of confidence. I just lost it today and was re-evaluting things again..that makes me sad.
One of these days the STBX will look back and see all that she missed out on and sadly it will be too late. How cold of her to NOT want him to make her breakfast and what a sweet honest gesture he made.
It sounds like you are trying to make up to your son what his mother lacks to do.
Too bad your hiking trip was rained out, but it was good of you to take him skating. Regardless of the fact that you feel inadequate at the whole skating thing, it was sweet of you to take him.
Get out there and give the old college try. I\'ve not skated in years, so I\'m sure I would be less than stellar, but it sounds like fun!
Big Hugs!
Your son is so lucky to have you as his father.