Kick him out?
So I tried to talk to my youngest about a job today. Tried last month and got told he didn't appreciate being pushed and to stop.
It has been a month and his current job is seasonal and ends next week. So sat down and told him didn't want him mad or to fight, but wanted to know what his plan was to get a new job. He laid down on the floor covered his head and wouldn't speak to me.
I talked about being an adult and facing things we don't want to do and maybe would like something about it, nice coworkers or at least money. Says doesn't like anything and doesn't need money. Gee well no I am paying for everything.
So mention he likes jerky, says he can live without it, mention his girlfriend and get I shouldn't bring her into it. Got told he was done talking about it. Gee he didn't talk at all. Told him I needed him to at least fill out applications. he said maybe. I told him we could help him look and send him links and he said he would just turn down most of them.
I told him well he needed to do it and went up to my room to cry.
Came back down as had to go to work and he would not tell me good bye. Told me he wasn't talking to me anymore and when I tried to touch him to me to stop it. Told me to go and I told him I didn't want to go with him so angry. He said well he wasn't going to get over being angry at me any time today.
I told him I was angry too, but wanted to hug him to remind me I loved him, but he would not budge and I finally had to leave.
I am the one who should be angry not him. Don't know what to do. I hate it when he treats me so so coldly. He gets this icy rage and just hatered comes out of his eyes. I really think he doesn't love me, just tolerates me to get what he wants.
I do not want this angry, lazy person living in my house. I know I have the right to kick him out. He is 18. But I still see the baby and little boy I loved so. And I know he has no where to go. His girlfriend is only a junior and he has no job so no money. He has one friend that I know of, but he is still in high school too.
How do you send your child off to be homeless? But how do you let them abuse you this way?
It has been a month and his current job is seasonal and ends next week. So sat down and told him didn't want him mad or to fight, but wanted to know what his plan was to get a new job. He laid down on the floor covered his head and wouldn't speak to me.
I talked about being an adult and facing things we don't want to do and maybe would like something about it, nice coworkers or at least money. Says doesn't like anything and doesn't need money. Gee well no I am paying for everything.
So mention he likes jerky, says he can live without it, mention his girlfriend and get I shouldn't bring her into it. Got told he was done talking about it. Gee he didn't talk at all. Told him I needed him to at least fill out applications. he said maybe. I told him we could help him look and send him links and he said he would just turn down most of them.
I told him well he needed to do it and went up to my room to cry.
Came back down as had to go to work and he would not tell me good bye. Told me he wasn't talking to me anymore and when I tried to touch him to me to stop it. Told me to go and I told him I didn't want to go with him so angry. He said well he wasn't going to get over being angry at me any time today.
I told him I was angry too, but wanted to hug him to remind me I loved him, but he would not budge and I finally had to leave.
I am the one who should be angry not him. Don't know what to do. I hate it when he treats me so so coldly. He gets this icy rage and just hatered comes out of his eyes. I really think he doesn't love me, just tolerates me to get what he wants.
I do not want this angry, lazy person living in my house. I know I have the right to kick him out. He is 18. But I still see the baby and little boy I loved so. And I know he has no where to go. His girlfriend is only a junior and he has no job so no money. He has one friend that I know of, but he is still in high school too.
How do you send your child off to be homeless? But how do you let them abuse you this way?
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I wish I had an answer but I\'m not a parent...thank God :) All I can think of is take away all the stuff that YOU pay for like video games and stuff. Food and shelter is all he gets...everything else comes out of HIS own money! Hope this helps!
Thanks. It is what I am going to try to head towards. Very little support with things and maybe getting out of the house more and away from him. Not that he will care. More time alone is what he wants.