keep praying...

I had a feeling that something was up with J.  He's really hurting BIG TIME.  It's one thing about the drinking but it's another having the depression.  When do you help and when do you not?  It's confusing.  
Yesterday I came home in plenty of time for J to go to his job.  He wasn't home.  I called him and asked him where he was.  He said he walked to work because he was bored. That's all he talks about - saying how bored he is.  He told me once that that's the reason he drinks.  Suggested many things to combat that but to no avail.  He did so much better when he was in school but now he can't even work on his paper that his professor gave him an long extension on.  
Around the time he was to get off of work ~ I called him to see if he needed a ride home. He said no that one of his friends (who I really like) was picking him up to go to their friend's house.  I didn't say anything but I wasn't comfortable about it.  I know better than to remind him to "be smart" like my hubby says.  Well, for some reason I couldn't get to sleep last night - tossing and turning. About a half hour after I drifted off my cell went off.  It was J's ex girlfriend.  She texted me that J called her 12 times.  She said her cell was on silent but because it went off so much it woke her.  She said she's worried and said that J was either on her front lawn or ours.  So nearly 2:30AM my husband and I are standing in our front yard trying to see if we can see him.  Nothing. I go inside and find him asleep on the couch. Ex gf asked that I call her today.  She said "He's out to get himself.  Making one destructive decision after another.  
And the irony of this is T-Man was home all night with us.  First time in years.  Go figure.
P.S.  I just received an email from the middle school principal thanking me for my efforts for "saving" our school and community's social services department that was destined to be cut from our city budget AND he said a NATIONAL ORGANIZATION inquiring about our parent program!  Pretty cool.....