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Well I know this isnt the right place to do this but I had to get it off my chest to some one! So..
Well back story. My dad's dad left when my dad was 5 yrs old! I only meet my grandfather 1 time. That was when my great grandmother my grandfathers mother passed away! He came up from flordia! Well since then my family (fathers side) has added me on facebook and thats how we communicate! Well 3 or so weeks ago my dads half sister sent me a message saying to call her and gave me her number! Well me and my dad called and it turned out my grandfather I meet once was dieing of stage 4 colon cancer! They had diagnosed him 3 weeks before then and it was moving rapidly through out his body! Well it was so far progessed they couldnt help him! So hospice took over! Well I have talked to my half aunt everyday since with daily text messages and such! Well i got a call around 8 this morning saying Don had passed away!
Is it bad I am not sad? I mean I feel sorry for my dads half sister and brother and nieces and nephews because they have had him all these years, where he choosed not to have anything to do with us. Is it wrong of me to not feel some type of sadness for a man I meet once?
Well back story. My dad's dad left when my dad was 5 yrs old! I only meet my grandfather 1 time. That was when my great grandmother my grandfathers mother passed away! He came up from flordia! Well since then my family (fathers side) has added me on facebook and thats how we communicate! Well 3 or so weeks ago my dads half sister sent me a message saying to call her and gave me her number! Well me and my dad called and it turned out my grandfather I meet once was dieing of stage 4 colon cancer! They had diagnosed him 3 weeks before then and it was moving rapidly through out his body! Well it was so far progessed they couldnt help him! So hospice took over! Well I have talked to my half aunt everyday since with daily text messages and such! Well i got a call around 8 this morning saying Don had passed away!
Is it bad I am not sad? I mean I feel sorry for my dads half sister and brother and nieces and nephews because they have had him all these years, where he choosed not to have anything to do with us. Is it wrong of me to not feel some type of sadness for a man I meet once?
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I think the way you feel is the way you feel and you really dont have a lot of control over it. Look at the facts you had no personal connection with this man, you have no memories of this man and this man had zero influence on your daily life. It is always sad to hear of someones passing and it is never pleasant to see how if affects the people who were close with them. But again you were not close with him so I think it is normal that you dont feel any loss or sadness. If I were in your shoes I would feel the same way.
Thanks Bell
It\'s hard to mourn the loss of someone you don\'t know. Just because you met him doesn\'t mean you \"know\" him. I wouldn\'t beat yourself up over it.