Just thinking out loud
I'm going to be more positive and stop beating myself up over Sara. Sara is the one that has a major problem. From this day forward if she calls again no matter what it is she wants my answer will be NO NO NO!! Fred and I are married partners and our concentration will be on each other. Yes, we have a daughter and she is an "adult" now and on her own. Always thinking about her causes me more pain, stress and depression. There is one thing I know for sure is Sara is not thinking about us and our welfare one bit. It is going to be a very different Christmas this year but, I plan to have a house full of close family here to help me get through it. I will be fine and I will count my many blessings I do have. I will remember the true meaning of Christmas and why we celebrate it.
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Stay stong mom. Christmas is gonna be sad! I would expect that Sara will call before then. She may even want to come over for Christmas....you and Fred probably have already done this, but talk about how you will handle it if she does want to be there with everybody else...no matter what you two decide, just stick with it!
Don\'t feel bad if you get set up again....she\'s good at it, but she\'s still your child....and I hate to see this hurt continue...Make a plan...stick with it. The best thing for her...to move this whole thing along quicker, would be for her to not be included and REALLY get the feeling that the family has moved on. Whether or not you can actually go through with that is yet to be seen. But you are her mother, and if she wants to be there you may cave in....it\'s ok....as long as she doesn\'t make you feel worse in the process. OK?
Thank goodness finally!!!! She\'s gonna try again but remember what you said this day and keep the promise that you made to yourself because if your not true to yourself you can\'t be with anyone else plus it will hurt you. The making sure that you have lots of family and friends around for the Holidays is a great idea but you\'ll still think about her. Try thinking about past x-mas\'s when she was younger and those times when everything was good not about now or what\'s happening with her. Let go of it Dar and give YOURSELF a chance to live happily again because you deserve it!! I wish I would have had you for a Mom. So take care of you and Fred and enjoy the Holidays with the rest of your family!! Take lots of pics because I want to see them. LOL XOXOXOXOX galed