Just something hope it hits someone

                                Its your choice

Seems like after time you come to realize that people

may know what they want but they are mainly scared

of change. Lots of time some people have someone holding

somesomething over their head. I believe thats the main

thing that puts in thier head that they cant live without the

other person. Its a type of mental abuse. No matter If the

person is good or bad or does anything at all wrong in thier life.

Now this isn't about me.

That person can be a kind person but the dis-belief they have

built up on the inside and a person can be told something some

many times that they can start to believe it them selves. It takes

alot to stay with that type of person and not believe the things

they say when your supossed to trust each other thats where it

happens at. Some many people use that to keep the one there

with close so they can feed off the pain they have caused. It

makes them feel as if they are powerful. In control, many things

and they tend to love the feeling. 

If this is happening to you and you read this, GET YOUR HEAD 

BACK AND MIND!!!!! I can say i see this happening alot and when

the other trys to get away they use things that person loves to keep

them around. I see and here this everyday but It seems not everyone

can. We can only help those that want help. It kills me to see people

being done this way.   

Most of the controlive typses in life come from a home or a school

where either they was misstreated, abused,unhealthy home or bullied.

I was bulllied alot when i was young but I ended that but in a way

became a bully myself but in a different way but some grow out that

stage and i did. So, why do do these people do this. Well my answer

is the need to feel power and knowing they have power over you as well.

Seems every turn theres no way out. Kids invloved? Well that more of

enough reason to leave, saftey of kids. They are systems for stuff like that.

Like here its the family justice center. 

If you are involved in something like that either victim or the abuser,

GET HELP!! Reach out to someone. People think itll just make it worse.

What worse being a toxic relationship or being someone where you can

feel peace. They are good people in the world that work the system and

do want to help.Housing, protections,beds and things, food. There are alot

of place and peple that can help. Even if you think theres no way out.

These people set up therapist for and your kids and get help for the ones

causeing the abuse if they decied they want help as well. Ive been down

this road and its not a fun road, itsa confusing road but when you truely

want out youll get out no matter what it takes. 

This even goes out to the addicts its the same thing if your relationship

is causing you to use or making you think of useing then get out. If that

person truely had any type of feelings towards you they would change,

get help. It took me 6 years to get out of a 12yr relationship so im not to

say its easy, im here to it can be done.

                                                                                                       by: Scotty B.      09/03/2018