Just one of those days
Just having one of those days. I've been feeling upbeat and optimistic lately for my upcoming FET in August but today it all went downhill. What started it was the call from the financial lady at my RE's office. She was just making sure I would have the $$ by the first monitoring appointment. Apparently I wasn't paying any attention when they went over the prices when I started IVF in February and it's double what I was expecting. My first FET was 1/2 price b/c I had a freeze all cycle (no fresh transfer). UGH. I'm so sick of spending my hard earned money on something that has resulted in nothing. I have nothing to show from it. It's just so depressing sometimes.
After getting that call, I just spiraled down (note that I am at work and trying to hold back tears during all of this). I texted my mom telling her that I was hurt that (1) no one has reached out to me lately from the family and (2) they were celebrating the July birthdays this weekend at my sister's brother-in-law's house (they have a new baby). My sister's brother-in-law has made annoying comments to others like "lets see if Julie drinks to see if she is pregnant" and other things trying to determine if I am pregnant. It's so annoying. He's not even part of our family. I probably won't go, but it's sad b/c we are celebrating my mom, my grandpa, one of my sister's (not the one mentioned above) and my nephew's birthdays. She didn't take that well and got my sister involved (one with the brother-in-law). So, they appologized for not being there for me and then sent me flowers (awww).
Sorry for the rant, I think I'm just annoyed b/c my RE's office called me about 3 times last cycle to make sure I knew how much it was. Sometimes I wonder if they really just care about the $$ :(. I really wish it were as easy as transferring the last two embryos to another clinic but it's not.
After getting that call, I just spiraled down (note that I am at work and trying to hold back tears during all of this). I texted my mom telling her that I was hurt that (1) no one has reached out to me lately from the family and (2) they were celebrating the July birthdays this weekend at my sister's brother-in-law's house (they have a new baby). My sister's brother-in-law has made annoying comments to others like "lets see if Julie drinks to see if she is pregnant" and other things trying to determine if I am pregnant. It's so annoying. He's not even part of our family. I probably won't go, but it's sad b/c we are celebrating my mom, my grandpa, one of my sister's (not the one mentioned above) and my nephew's birthdays. She didn't take that well and got my sister involved (one with the brother-in-law). So, they appologized for not being there for me and then sent me flowers (awww).
Sorry for the rant, I think I'm just annoyed b/c my RE's office called me about 3 times last cycle to make sure I knew how much it was. Sometimes I wonder if they really just care about the $$ :(. I really wish it were as easy as transferring the last two embryos to another clinic but it's not.
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That really sucks you got a surprise about the cost. There is nothing worst when you are excited about a cycle than getting hit with surprises about $$.
That also really sucks about your sisters Brother in Law! I think a lot of people make comments like that thinking its funny, but when you are in our shoes they really suck. That\'s sweet they sent you flowers though!
Thinking of you!
Sorry to hear you got a surprise on the cost today, that\'s awful and I\'m sure like a total slap in the face! It always feel like there are road blocks in the IF world we are so unfortunately a part of!
So your sister\'s bil sounds like a douche! What the hell does he care and why does he need to make comments like that? Some people just don\'t understand how hurtful those comments can be! I\'m sorry he\'s keeping you from your family party, sounds like it would be a good time for you to be with family. Hope your day gets better, big hugs!
So sorry to hear that you are having a suck-tastic day :( IF is a rough enough struggle and when you add in the cost it can be completely overwhelming at times.
Its not like they offer a guarantee plan, buy one get one option or any sort of discount double check....nope, we just have to pay what they charge and it sucks!
Glad you were able to tell your family that you are hurt/upset by their actions. There\'s no reason you should just bottle that up and take it. As family we are expected to just take whatever is dished \"because its from family\". But I say bullshit, we\'re human, we have feelings and IF deserves to be treated with respect and a certain degree of understanding.
Thinking of you ((HUGS))
so sorry you\'re feeling shotty :-( I get it. The $ aspect is such a huge downer. Not only because it\'s hard earned and nothing yet to show for it, but we\'re going broke over somethig less deserving ppl get for free. That\'s my biggest issue. If EVERYBODY had to pay this kind of money for a kid, fine. But just me? This is bullshit. (just me in terms of my social circle in real life, not DS) How nice of them to send you flowers, maybe they didn\'t realize you were feeling that way until you brought it up. Hopefully they try a little harder to reach out next time! As for sis\'s BIL? You should take an empty bottle, or like a gatorade bottle and claim there\'s alcohol in it, you just brought your own. That\'s what I did when I didn\'t want anybody to know I was TTC. Go a BBQ or something i\'d have a blue gatorade bottle and say I mixed it at home. Do it until you\'re like 8 mos preggo! lol
I\'m so sorry. I really wish money wasn\'t an issue with IF. It makes a horrible situation worst.
I\'m glad your family sent you flowers. I just wish they would have thought about it before you needed to vent your feelings. My MIL is always making comments about how bad it is that I\'m not giving her an other grandchild even knowing about my IF issues and all 3 of my mcs. Some people will never get it.
We are here for you.
So sorry everything is so overwhelming, I understand. IF causes a lot of emotional stress as well as financial. It doesn\'t make things easy that\'s for sure. I\'m so glad your family thought about you and sent you flowers:) hang in there, it will get better.
Awe thanks guys! Nellysgirl - I hear you on how it\'s not fair that we have pay to get pregnant, it\'s just not fair!!! Haha - I will definitely devise a plan when I actually do get pregant so that he thinks I\'m not since he always wonders if I am! Babysteps77 - that is so annoying that a guy said that to you. I\'ve had similar comments said to me before and all I can do is roll my eyes! Thanks for listening ladies!!