just found out
7 days ago i learned who i thought was the love of my life was molesting my 6 year old daughter. i am a wreck. i cant sleep, i dont eat and i have every emotion imagineable. one min im crying and the next minute im throwing something. i am so so so upset. my baby was hurt and i had no clue. how did i not know? i keep telling myself that its not my fault but my heart doesnt believe that. he waited 2 years to show his true self. i keep saying that i should be grateful that he couldnt hold in his true self until we were married next year but... im soooooo pissed. he knew how paranoid i was of that ever happening to them. i was abused at 5 until 11 and so i kept people at a distance and didnt allow anyone in for fear of this very thing. he knew!!! how could he do this and how can we be ok? my daughter has to give her statement and have an exam tomorrow and i feel so helpless. i allowed him into our lives.he gained our trust and then destoyed us. i need help. there are days that i just dont want to wake up. i feel like i ruined our family and my girls forever.
info... abuse started abt3 months ago *right after engagement* daughter disclosed it to me after i saw a weird look across her face and so i immediately had him arrested. he has admitted to it and said he is sick n needs help. once in custody he confessed that he abused 2 others 5 years ago at 19 that no one knew about and that he thought he was cured. we all start counseling nxt wk *her plus my older 2 daughters* but.. with him gone and us starting counseling, i still feel horrible and like the worse mom. i was suppose to protect my babies from evil and here i invited it n the door! i need help!! i really dont want to get up most days.
info... abuse started abt3 months ago *right after engagement* daughter disclosed it to me after i saw a weird look across her face and so i immediately had him arrested. he has admitted to it and said he is sick n needs help. once in custody he confessed that he abused 2 others 5 years ago at 19 that no one knew about and that he thought he was cured. we all start counseling nxt wk *her plus my older 2 daughters* but.. with him gone and us starting counseling, i still feel horrible and like the worse mom. i was suppose to protect my babies from evil and here i invited it n the door! i need help!! i really dont want to get up most days.
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I\'m heartbroken reading this. I thought my daughter was safe too. A playmate of hers hurt her in the backyard where no one could see. Now I can\'t trust anyone. Not even children. My daughter told me two months after it happened. It\'s been almost 8 months since then. It doesn\'t feel like it\'s been that long. Everything is so fresh in my mind. I just want to encourage you. I\'m having a hard day myself even though overall my daughter is getting better. She and my husband and I are doing family counseling as well as individual. It helps. Hold on to the good days. Be honest with yourself. It\'s okay to be mad, sad and depressed. I\'m right there with you. I get so sad every time I see a new member in this group. I want to send you some hugs. Message me whenever you need to.