Just Feel Sorry For Me!

The whole M.carriage thing and now TTC thing is very sad, frustrating, and emotionally draining. People don't get it either, not even those closest to me, my husband, my mom, my sister, my dad, NONE OF THEM. When I m.carried, it seemed like NO ONE understood. There were comments like, "Well, God has a plan", and "That means there was something wrong with the baby, so it is probably best that you m.carried", "You will get pregnant again someday", "It just wasn't meant to be", "At least you can drink now", "At least you weren't that far along", the list goes on and on, I am sure many of you can relate.  And after those comments people were quick to return to comments about  THEIR own lives and struggles, it was if they did not want to hear about my loss and it made them uncomfortable. In fact, to this day, when I bring it up to anyone, they get quiet, and the mood becomes awkward. If I could have answered some of the comments made they would be "I know God has a plan, you dont need to tell me that", "Actually, I dont think there was something wrong with my baby, my HCG levels were VERY high, I feel in my heart that I m.carried due to the hemmorage, not because there was something wrong with my baby", "If it wasnt meant to be than why was it meant to be for only 8 weeks?!" "And yes, I can drink now, I may become and alcoholic due to the pain this has caused...wonderful!!!!" "Yes, I was only 8 weeks, so that makes my little one less significant?"Anyways, I have learned NO ONE really understands, and NO ONE ever will! I feel like telling everyone, "Please, when I talk about my loss, please JUST FEEL SORRY FOR ME, Please hug me and tell me you love me and tell me you are SOOOOOOO sorry for my loss. Dont tell me everything is going to be ok, because it is not ok, it was horrible and I am still not pregnant and it has been almost a year, so it is not ok!!!" Just listen and cry with me and TRY to empathize with me AND LOVE ME!!! And I dont want a little hug I want a BIG Hug with meaning and if you could bring up a tear or two, it would make me feel like you are feeling my pain a little , so that would be helpful too." Anyways- just wanted to see if anyone else who has suffered loss or who is TTC after loss felt this way-