Jealousy? and more

I pulled my son out of school in 2011 because he was getting in fights every other week and if he wasn't fighting someone else, he was breaking his hands, literally, by punching walls, lockers, and breaking out Windows at school. Felt it was for the best although I hated it! I then fought an uphill battle trying to get him to get his ged and start college, go to night school, anything. Of course this was Timmy's greatest joy...his predictions about my poor parenting and the fact that my son was going to grow up to be a loser like his father and my brothers came true according to him. Well, in November my son got accepted to a program at the college to give disadvantaged youth a second chance. He is getting his ged, his license, anger management, counseling, interview skills and interpersonal skills training, and job placement. Both my son and I are ecstatic. Timmy had been negative from day one....First I was lying about the program, then he would mess it up, then it was a joke...oh yeah, he also gets his plumbing certification, but anyway back to Timmy, he had talked bad about it from the beginning. Well tonight my son told me he actually already had an interview for a job at the gas plant. Starting pay is $15 an hr, he will continue class at night two nights a week, and it's a union job. I mistakenly told Timmy. Of course, who in their right mind would want to work for a union, he will never get clearance to work there, he should just start at bottom somewhere and work his way up like everyone else (where? McDonald's?) AND the negativity went on and on. Then he says.....do you think I'm lying about how much I make now? Aren't you proud of me? I didn't get a lucky break like .. REALLY?!?!

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unsureabout
unsureabout

Wow! He just cant stand the thought of your son succeeding..... he might have to eat his foul words! :D
Livndadrem
Livndadrem

Good for you! Clearly you have done an amazing job of parenting him, despite your DH\'s best efforts. And yes, he\'s pissed now cos he can\'t say how badly you failed as a mother and how useless your son is.

As for proud of him ... well if I said what I thought about that, it might get me banned from DS.
sweettheresap
sweettheresap

Yea it floored me when he asked if I was proud of him. Sometimes it\'s funny, sometimes sad, but mostly scary that he seems to be a 3 yr old masquerading as a 45yr old man. Freaky :-)
RockinBunny
RockinBunny

Great news about your son\'s placement and job opp! That\'s so nice :)

It\'s just sad that he is placing himself in competition with your son, as you guys say, like a kid. It\'d be nice if he took on a mature, fatherly kind of role, wouldn\'t it?! But no. If the attention isn\'t on these guys, to them, it\'s in the wrong place!