January 31, 2010 - PA trip and my birthday

Got up at 8am and got ready for the drive.  packed up the cat (he stayed at Toms overnight) and went to pick up Jen at her house (she lives near the buffalo zoo - which is about 5 miles away from me - I live just outside of the city).  Jen and I dropped the cat off and proceeded down to the seneca reservation (about 5 miles away from my parents in Angola).  On our way down, the roads got really slick.  There was this car that stopped to make a left hand turn and a truck was behind him and he was just coasting.  Apparently, I almost hit the guy but spin alittle bit but stayed in control on the road.  It was really scarry.  Went to get gas, but my bank card didn't work.  I will have to call the credit union later today.  Had to borrow about $40.00 from my parents for gas.  It was kinda embarassing (I just used that card yesterday for something - strange).  The next time, I have to make sure the card is working before I go on any trip, I was suppose to check friday but I forgot to do this.   I put about $35.00 in gas (which filled it up) and went on our marry way.  Jen didn't have any $$ on her to help.  Yeah, I know - its her trip and she should have pitched in but thats the way it goes for now.  I will get her $35.00 from her another day.  The next trip we go on, I will absolutely make sure she has about $40.00 for gas (by then the gas will be close to $4.00 a gallon anyways).  If she does not, the trip is off.  we got to Jen's dad and step mothers house about 1:30pm.  We were starving so we had sandwiches for lunch.  We talked for alittle bit.  Jen's dad is very sick and was in the hospital with a foot ulcer for about 5 weeks.  I was suprised he was up and around.  I think he had a few TIA's while we were there because he was mumbling a lot while we were there.  I kinda feel for Jen's step mother having to deal with this 24/7.  Its very difficult.   They have a beautiful house.  I will try and post pics from the trip in the next day or two (I still have pics on the camera from xmas).   We had a nice dinner, pot roast, potato and cauliflower.  It was definite comfort food.  About 6pm we went down to watch a movie and I kept falling asleep.  No dessert for me, I was too tired.  After the movie, we went to bed at ---  8pm!  Exhausted from the drive and everything.  I am just not use to all this socializing, it was too exausting for me and OD'd on it alittle bit.  Probably should have post poned this trip a month or so but Jen has not seen her father since last June.  Thats a long time.   He mentioned to her that she needs a car and transportation.  She didn't say much about it and dropped it immediately.  she keeps a lot of her financial and health concerns away from her father.  Her dad use to hunt in Africa and shot a lion, bear and other animals.  He had a lot of animal heads on their walls, the lion and bear was skinned. the bear was on the wall and the lion was a rug down in their immaculately finished basement/bar area.  The lion was shot between its eyes.    The next day, I took more pics with my camera.  they had a indian head carved outside on a tree but the snow was too deep and didn't bring my boots to walk out in the snow and take it.  I hope to come back in the spring and take a pic.   Jen's step mom and I talked about her health, she has some kind of brain/heart issue that she needs to check up on.  Her sister died of it.  Some kind of cerebral issue.  I hope its nothing major.  I have no idea what her dad would do if she died first.  We left at 10:30 sunday and got back to Cheektowaga at 1pm.  Jen came over and hung out with me for a few hours and at 4:15pm we went out to dinner at olive garden with her family, who lives about 20 miles away.  It was ok but her sister is sort of a bitch (so is her kids, they are snooty - BIG TIME!).   Her sister brought her boyfriend - I had met him on xmas eve just before I went to my cousins house.  I reintroduced myself, shook his hand and Jen's sister gave me a look like "don't talk to him, he is MY MAN!". I thought in my mind, I better not talk to him.  Everytime I tried to respond to something he said, she gave me this "evil" look.  Jen said she didn't notice but would have said something.   This guy is one of the nicest guys I've ever met, I wonder what he's doing with her!  Jeesh..... I even heard that my friend Debbie use to work for her (aparently Mary was her boss).  The first words out of her mouth was "huh, wonder if she's still on her meds".   WTF!!   I didn't react to this because of Jen's family but I turned around and ignored her the rest of the night.  I will hear an earful from debbie later on.  I personally think that Jen's sister is the one on meds - this woman is certifiably crazy!  I know EXACTLY what debbie takes (I've seen Debbie in the morning doing things and evening doing things, I have checked on her house and all she has is vitamins in her fridge) and she is one of the most sane people I know.  Jen said on xmas eve that her sister wished that Jen was never born.  The BF put her in her place and said "after 42 years your saying this, give it a rest!".  I guess the girls NEVER go along.   anyways, I sat next to Jen and her mom (her mom's birthday is today too - she turns 70).  the olive garden gave us a cake.  The family sang - more like howled...I clapped and said "great effort".  Took Jen home at 7:15 and got home at 8.  Tried to watch a movie on the DVR but fell asleep again and woke up at 12:30am.  Must be exausted.   Oh well, I didn't turn 45 until 5:50am.  Of course its about 5 degrees today.  Lake Erie has to be frozen over now.  Suppose to get a storm tomorrow and wednesday - hopefully it won't be that bad.   
Today is my birthday.  so far its going just like a normal Monday.  Back to doing the CPR sign in sheets for Buffalo General.  I wound up staying friday until 4:15 doing a bunch of revisions to the ones I did.  Today, Denise said the formatting was great to keep right on going.  I decided to do a quick journal and get right back to it.  Suppose to go out to dinner with my mother and aunt but my mother cancelled and my aunt never called so it will be a quiet birthday.  I think we will do this on Thursday.  I have a bone scan scheduled in the afternoon and will only work until noon.   Dad is at Roswell Cancer Institute (my cancer hospital) right now seeing the skin cancer doctor and see if he can get the drain out.  Hopefully that will happen.  Mom is getting remicaide treatment for her RA.  She's had it for 8 years.  Knowing how she felt after the treatment (it wipes you out) all she will do is sleep when she gets home.  It does help her.  with her 80 lbs weight loss these past 6 months, I think she's had a lot more energy.  My brother is still out of town for work until the 11th.  He is in missouri.  Scout is at my parents.  (got some great pics of the dog too...). 
Have a great week.  I will journal about my bone scan on thursday. 
 
 

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holeybones
holeybones

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user

Sounds like you\'ve had a busy weekend!! Stay safe on the roads and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!
norma67
norma67

Happy Birthday Jen!!! And, many, many, many more to come!
deleted_user
deleted_user

Happy Birthday Jenn! & Many More.
simplegirl
simplegirl

Happy belated birthday!! What an adventure you went on. Sounds exhausting to me. It\'s great of you to do that for her. Jen\'s sister seems like a bitch for sure. How can she stand her? My gosh. I hope you enjoy your birthday celebration when you do it!!
Chris1981
Chris1981

Hi Jenn! :) We hope you are enjoying a wonderful birthday week. :) We\'re very happy, and thankful you all had safe travels. it\'s very dangerous out there, lots of ice/snow this winter season. warm hugs. :) we are so happy you all got a chance to visit. :) We\'re very proud of you for keeping strong and continuing to take very good care. :) You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers, and very close within our hearts, each and every day. :) We send our love, many peaceful blessings, and lots of super big happy sunny friendship hugs, from CT. :) Take care, enjoy a nice weekend. :)